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Sometimes it's all too easy to forget that it isn't just your partner's health that's important during pregnancy. She'll be bombarded with advice about what not to eat or drink and what exercise she should be doing, but a lot of it is just as relevant to you. After all, you owe it to your baby to be in good shape too, don't you?
The first thing many women find themselves doing when they discover they are pregnant is totting up the units of alcohol they consumed before they knew anything about their condition. That’s before they start torturing themselves over what went on before conception – and you might like to pause for thought here too.
Firstly, forget what happened in the past.
Now is the time to focus on the months ahead and what you both can do to give your baby a healthy start in life, while keeping yourselves fit and well for its arrival.
Your partner may be feeling as sick as a pig, in which case embarking on a zealous, vitamin-packed regime is only going to make you unpopular.
Your best bet is be understanding when she refuses your kindly proffered glass of water for being the wrong type of water (yes, that’s how bad morning sickness can be) and to concentrate instead on preparing whatever it is she decides she can eat.
Now is a good time to start, develop or fine tune good habits of your own. This does not mean you have to consign yourself to a diet of mashed potatoes and banana custard in sympathy.
So where to begin?
The general consensus among doctors is that if you only do one thing – though of course they would like you to do more – you should give up smoking.
The next big beneficial step you can take is to limit alcohol.
As for diet, doctors advise keeping it mixed and healthy – meat, fish, whole foods and plenty of fruit and vegetables.
It’s possible to go overboard here and become neurotic about food and drink. As it is, barely a week goes by without a new piece of evidence surfacing that banishes yet another food during pregnancy.
So it’s important to take some of the advice with a pinch of salt (which, whilst we’re on the subject, should be consumed in moderation during pregnancy).
“The general advice is to avoid soft cheeses, unpasteurised dairy products and peanuts,” says Margaret McCartney, a GP in Glasgow and health columnist for the Financial Times. “However, I wouldn’t panic if your partner does eat any of these, as the risks overall from consuming them are small.”
Whatever the risks, or benefits of various foodstuffs, the main thing is to be healthy and fit.
It’s easy to overdose on good advice during pregnancy, particularly a first one, but it’s also easy to ignore the sensible basics. Perhaps the best tip is to seek a happy balance – and above all to enjoy the pregnancy. As Dr McCartney says: “It should be the happy lead up to one of the most exciting times in life.”