My wife are separating and she has found somebody else we have 3 young kids five eight and twelve
She wants them to spend time with her new man and I have said that I am ok with this but no overnight stays
She is now asking if she can take them with her to meet his parents
We are still married and my eldest children have said that they feel weird around their mum and this new man and that they just feel uncomfortable
We are currently stuck in a lockdown and as such I am unable to move back to our house in the UK ( we are in Germany thanks Brexit)
My wife is the sole bread winner as I agreed to look after the children when I moved here
I am worried that she is now trying to make more contact as this will make it easier for her to keep the kids here and I have read that if I don’t mention that I don’t want them to be with her and this other man it won’t help me in the long run
Any advice would be much appreciated
i think its fair for the kids to stay overnight with their mum. but as you mention, there are risks that she may keep them in germany/UK permanently. if you can not agree on an arrangement, perhaps you could look at taking the legal route.
with me, when I broke up with ex, she let me have the kids every saturday, but would not allow overnights. so had to go to court to get that right. but easier for us as we both live close by in London.