TOPIC: Advise please

Advise please 7 months 15 hours ago #107511

lol keep contacting her solicitor :p

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Advise please 7 months 15 hours ago #107512

Be prepared to be messed about in mediation. I initiated mediation, she ignored for some time, then after a couple of contacts from mediator she emailed me to say she would only go if I paid. I agreed and did so, she went to mediation and I was informed she was 'not suitable to take part in mediation'.

In other words, even though they cannot say it, she was forced to go, had no intention of going any further but liked wasting my £150.

At least you can then proceed to court if you want, but as we all know this is not the preferred option for anyone. There have been so many examples in the past and ongoing where cordial communication would have resolved issues, mediation was one of them.

I have to add that in 90% of the instances it is my ex who would have benefited from talking, as I am not bitter and twisted and looking only to be fair. She just wants confrontation and zero co-operation and so many other ex's on here seem the same.

I hope you have good luck in your dealings.

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Advise please 7 months 4 hours ago #107548

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Quick question about schools.

My daughter starts this year and all the forms have gone to my wife. I'm worried that she won't put me down as an emergency number, can I do anything about this. I will also bring it up in mediation on Tuesday.

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Advise please 7 months 4 hours ago #107549

hi,

you can call the school and ask them to add you. they may ask you to visit. when i went on academic review day, they told me to speak to reception/admin team about it.
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Advise please 7 months 3 hours ago #107551

She wont , you need to contact school

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Advise please 6 months 4 weeks ago #107594

flyingember wrote: Her solicitor is hers and works for her. You don't pay a penny for them. Never ever.

Exactly. This is how people fool others

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Advise please 6 months 4 weeks ago #107647

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Quick question. Through the grape vine I have heard that my wife has been sorting out a nursary place for my son to start soon. I have not been consoluted on this, can she legally do that or should I have a say as well.

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Advise please 6 months 4 weeks ago #107648

hi,

yes she can do that. although schools/SS like both parents to agree on these matters, if one parent disagrees, then they are allowed to make decisions like that. you posted previously about school not knowing your contact details. these issues are quite minor in the grand scale of things. first you should concentrate on the c100 court hearings that's coming up. you will have the chance to address school/nursery issues.
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Advise please 6 months 4 weeks ago #107649

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Thanks. Just trying to get things ready for mediation on Tuesday. I'm trying to push for that we share the family house and when she is there I stay at my parents, when I'm there she stays with her dad. That way the children have a good routine. I'm worried she is going to assume I stay at my parents and pay all the bills, while she lives on the house we are both entitled to. All of my money is tied up in the mortgage and bills so I can't rent anywhere.

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Advise please 6 months 4 weeks ago #107657

Its only mediation Tuesday. Only way you would get what you are asking for if ex agreed. mediation generally don't work in most cases and ends up resulting in going to family court, I would make mediation all about your ex allowing you to see children on a regular basis until you sort everything else out.

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Advise please 6 months 3 weeks ago #107720

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So today's my first mediation session. I've spoken to a lot of people, including other mums, and they can't believe how vile and malicious she has been.I have also discovered more lies she has been telling her family about me. I'm not sure if she is mentally stable as she really seems to believe everything she says.

In mediation i'm going to have to lay it on hard on her. I've pretty much laid out 2 options for her. Either we share OUR family home at the moment via 'nesting' or i'm going to cancel all the bills i pay so i can rent somewhere so i can see the children. I'm going in straight away for 50/50 contact. I've been told by her mum that she doesn't want this to go to court.

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Advise please 6 months 3 weeks ago #107729

sounds good. put children first. just be wary of your nesting idea. in future she may change the locks of the house if she hasn't done so already. and it will be too easy for her to accuse you of domestic violence and all sorts. maybe not a good idea to carry on living under same roof. you wouldn't want the kids to witness conflict.

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