I've started preparing my next position statement which I assume will have to include my opinion on the section 7 report that is to follow.
How do I write this position statement? My last statement was more of a timeline from how everything started to where we are now, ending with what contact I want.
Can this one be keep short by just specifying if I am happy or not with what Cafcass recommendations are?
If it were me and I was happy with the recommendations then I would leave it at that. If there was something I really wasn't happy with then I would say what you disagree with and why and try to offer explanations without bad mouthing the ex.
Position Statement is usually detailing what contact you would like/ what you would do with your time with your kids (where you would go, transport, plans to keep them entertained, whether you want to take them abroad etc) and stress everything you ask for is for the benefit of the child.
for my last hearing court told me to write a position statement, which containts my response to s7 report. so i picked out main points in report, and wrote whether i agreed or not. then at end i wrote heading called directions, then i wrote list of contact arrangements I am seeking, like weekends, half of school holidays etc...
Don't let this worry you. Lots of changes happening for your ex too. She will be trying to figure out how you are on calls, whether they are working out both good and bad, your intentions eg are you going to interogate child or be child focused and build a bond etc...
In time privacy will happen as it will feel like encroaching kn childs privacy but also child will say so too eg mum you don't need to listen in.. in the grand scheme of things it makes no difference you have to put it out of mind and be yourself.
In a way it is your opportunity to show her that her being there will not influence how you will be with your child.. if you let it impact you know then your ex will know she can push your buttons and will push them many times over in different ways.
Its not easy, nor is it great but if you focus on it then you are not giving the call 100% focus and attention...
Not sure how old yours are but my kids now as they have gotten older take responsibility for the video calls and move from one bedroom to another, build dens and then call and no sign of ex now...she was there in the early days but I didn't let it impact me..