Today I received the report from my social worker, I am a bit confused, during all the contact I had with this social worker, she kept telling me the children were safer with me, and if the children went back to their mother, the case would be expedited to section 47 as she felt the children would be in grave danger.
On the first interview we had, she kept using the word controlling, based on things she said my ex partner told her, I tried to explain that I never tried to control my partner but my partner didn't want responsibilities and was happy for me to deal with the day to day things.
I am working father and therefore cannot be with the children 24/7 I do what all working parents do, send their children to nursery or school and look after them in the evenings when I get home, during the last 4 months since I had the children my mother has been looking after them in the day time and I look after them in the evenings and weekends.
The social worker has now said, she has not seen me look after my children she has only seen my mother so she doesn't know whether I cam capable of looking after them, but when she visited the mother, the mother was cooking for the two children that were returned to her (mother doesn't work so it's easy for her to be cooking at 4pm in the afternoon. She also said she felt every thing should be done to return the two eldest to the mother so the family isn't broken as the little ones are already with the mother.
The fact is she hasn't seen my mother look after the children because on her visits, she arrives either 10 minutes after me or I arrive 10 minutes after her, so how can she say she has only seen my mother look after the children and how can she say she has seen the mother look after the children when all she has done when she arrives is interview them and seen the mother cooking at 4pm. If I didn't work I would be cooking at 4pm too.
When the judge said I had to return the children the social work didn't attend that court hearing because she said she didn't know about it even though I told her about it and it was my ex partners hearing not mine.
When the judge said the children had to be returned to the mother I called her and told her, she told me the two eldest didn't have to return to the mother if they didn't want to, she said that a few times in the conversation, but then days after she was telling the two eldest that they should return to the mother, even though they told her they wanted to stay with me.
My hearing is on the 28 September I am now not sure how it is going to go because of the conflicting statements this social worker has given. What do you suggest or recommend?
i think you should return the 2 eldest kids to their mum or make effort to. if they refuse or they later come back to you, then you did what was required of you by court. you should tell court you followed their directions. they can speak to your eldest kids if they want to.
I did return them, the eldest told his mum that he didn’t want to stay with her, he went in and got some of his things and left with his grandad, his grandad was the one that took them back as I am not allowed near her. My daughter spent the night with her mother, the social worker visited them the next day she told the Social worker she was going back to her dad and she called her grandad to come and get her. I did return all four of them via their grandad.