So happy I found this page as I am the "father" in this custody battle .
I am completely lost and tired of being a victim of parenteral abandonment. My ex along with his wife who works for cys " brain washing" my kids . I cant call them without his wife coaching my kids conversations . I haven't seen them since Feb. We do have a court order . Im supposed to get them everyother Saturday unsupervised . They would refuse to drop them off at my house and only do public visits ok . Anything as long as I get to see them . Well I have video and pictures of my ex and his wife in every visit since they follow us around town and even cut my visits short by 3hrs telling my kids in front of me that they have a better suprise for them
I've taken them to court this june for all of this and due to my ex not reporting his move the case was transferred to the county where he now lives and is on hold until they pick it up but the current order is still in place.
Now I haven't seen my kids in 5 months . Everytime I call all 3 of my kids say " I dont want to talk to you right now ". I call every night as the court order states I am allowed and have been recording conversations for the past year and building proof of the remarks and lies made up about me from both my ex and his wife ....
So much of me wants to keep fighting but alot of me wants to quit ....lawyer cost and child support are crippling me now .
We live 3hrs away from eachother. He made the first move and was ordered to do the travel.
I dont drive . That's a very long story in itself. I can get a ride from my boyfriend ( we've been together for 2yrs now and bought a house together in November 2019) . Nothing states my boyfriend cant be around the kids but their father has a issue with him even dropping me off in my town for the visits . So to keep the peace I just walk downtown to our meeting spot since ex refuses to bring them to my address that is on the court order .
Ex said in text today I can travel to them and meet at the mall this weekend but my only ride is my boyfriend and just that will cause a mess because of what my ex has done and said about it in the past and he didnt even step out of the car.
you can self represent in court, so you don't have to give up. Let's face it, what do you have to lose? even if you lost everythin (which shouldn't happen) you would be no worse than you would be if you gave up, and at least you would know you tried.
yes its not nice when they give you a take it or leave it offer. i guess for time being, when you meet up, you could ask your boyfriend to wait for you nearby, around the corner & out of sight. that way it avoids any conflict with your ex.