TOPIC: HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!! CRAZY BABY MOTHER

Re: HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!! CRAZY BABY MOTHER 6 years 6 months ago #21189

hey everyone!!!!!

yes as darren has said it went very well!

im really happy with the progress so far.. so moving forward what i plan to do is the following to stand myself in a good place the next time we go to court.

1 document everything thats is said on my visits.

2 im in a property with a spare room i plane to decorate this as my sons potential bedroom and also buy all he needs for when he is eventually allowed to stay with me,

3 i need more suggestions from you!!! i need to know what did anyone do in my position now.. what is the next steps.. what will her solicitor be throwing at me and how to counter act the allogations that she is no doubt going to put at me..

i did get a good result this time i do feel the judge acted oin my favour but i need to maintain this judge... is it possible for me to make sure i have the same judge to ensure consistancy in my case?

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Re: HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!! CRAZY BABY MOTHER 6 years 6 months ago #21201

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Sounds like an excellent result.

The first thing I'd do now is to step back, look at where you are now and look at where you were a few months ago. That difference is what you can continue to achieve - there may be setbacks (there also may not be) but just keep in mind the goal and you'll do well.

I don't think you can request the same judge - though it may be worth ringing the court to see if it is possible for them to list it with him again if possible, but there's no reason to think you wouldn't do as well with any other judge as well - if you have a good case and you are calm, rational and reasonable, then why not :)

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Re: HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!! CRAZY BABY MOTHER 6 years 6 months ago #21227

OK SO HERES A SURPRISE!

i wake up this morning to find a solicitors letter...

it says the her mother is not willing to let me enter her home and if i turn up at her house

theres also other lies like mediation was offered and i refused.. this is quite hurtful and making me furious!

what now why is this bitch making my life a walking mysery!

i need legal help!!!!

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Re: HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!! CRAZY BABY MOTHER 6 years 6 months ago #21232

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oh nooooo thats horrid, did the mother agree in court that you could go to hers , the judge will so not like this . can you go to a contact centre. I feel for you I really do. I would phone cafcass and explain what has happened and see if they can arrange a contact centre

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Re: HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!! CRAZY BABY MOTHER 6 years 6 months ago #21233

ON THE PHONE TO CAFCASS NOW X

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Re: HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!! CRAZY BABY MOTHER 6 years 6 months ago #21237

just got off thephone with cafcass.. they cant help me until my case is referred to a case worker this will take 2 weeks.

i also called the police and her solicitor.. her solicitor said i need to not go to her house as she will not let me in..

the police said for me to go to my solicitor.. i dont have one.. and now im confused.com

if anyone wud be willing to help me with legal advice or what the hell i do now other than go there and kick some council house butt then please tell me..

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Re: HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!! CRAZY BABY MOTHER 6 years 6 months ago #21238

Hi CBM.

Wow, what a let down - you were on a massive high from your success this week.

Right, this is just a set back - a really frustrating one, but a set back.

You did exactly the right thing by calling CAFCAS. Two weeks will seem like an eternity but just concentrate on the fact that all this will be helping you to get to spend some time with your son.

do now other than go there and kick some council house butt then please tell me..

It very very important that you don't go round to either your ex's house or her mothers. This would be counter productive and will only cause you problems in the long term. I would imagine that you are a little angry (maybe a lot) and very frustrated - both understandable emotions but you need to focus on what this is all about - seeing your little son.


You have come so far over the last couple of months, you are so close to your goal - waiting another couple of weeks in the grand scheme of things is not too long a wait.

Gooner.

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Re: HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!! CRAZY BABY MOTHER 6 years 6 months ago #21239

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...you could try telephoning the court help desk, explain that you have an interim order in place but that the resident parent after having agreed in court to access through her mothers address has now sent a letter through her solicitor denying you access. Ask if you can return to court for an emergency hearing as the resident parent is obviously in contempt of court. Tell them that you are self representing and if an emergency return to court is not an option, ask what else you can do.

I feel you would be entitled to ask for an emergency hearing and as you've already been once I dont think you would pay any extra, although I'm not 100% sure about this.
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Re: HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!! CRAZY BABY MOTHER 6 years 6 months ago #21241

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Hi Cb you must be well naffed off, but please dont do anything daft as they would love this. Maybe the mother never gave permission or maybe its just another plot to stop you she went to the solicitors quick, who knows at this stage. You are so close , I would ring cafcass again and apoligise for phoneing again but is there any chance of them doing it quicker then 2 weeks

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Re: HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!! CRAZY BABY MOTHER 6 years 6 months ago #21242

i was told i need to go there in person.. ive taken so much time off work and im working for a manager job.. this is not looking good for me to keep taking time off..

ive called the court they are useless pricks in my opinion.. and even called me a moaner.. to which i put a complaint against her with the court but thatsd another story...

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Re: HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!! CRAZY BABY MOTHER 6 years 6 months ago #21243

made the calls and was told sorry no you have to wait.. and merely hung up on me...

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Re: HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!! CRAZY BABY MOTHER 6 years 6 months ago #21246

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ok so here you go again, two weeks isnt that long, it may seem so , but please stay positive and focus, Im gutted for you and everyone here will be. I think you should phot copy the letter and write to cafcass so they are prepared and ask if thay can arrange a contact centre

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