ive been advised to go to a seperated parents program,
the social services have met with me and my ex partner.
my ex partner still refuses to bring him to see me, so she was told to bring my son to the social services office so that they could assess me with him, for a section 7 report.
now this is the stupid thing...
shes not allowed me to see him for 3 months.. of course the first time he sees me hes not going to recognise me.. so he started crying.. and had to be taken back to his mother.. who then refused to let him go back into the room with me..
the section 7 report has now been done based on this one meeting and it has been recomended that supervised contact be arranged.
i have court tomorrow where they will present this report..
the new partner has been nothing but spitefull again...
im behind in csa payments..
this whole thing is getting to be a complete joke..
oh and her new bf gets to move in with my son and raise him as his own... this is a fare justice system we have...
It's been a long process and I agree it's crap, but on the positive, they are recommending supervised contact - it's a starting point again and it also protects you against any allegations your ex might want to make.
welcome back - supervised contact is better than nothing and a great place to start. How did court go ?
Are you going to attend a separated parents program? I think it would be an idea to jump through all the hoops you are being asked to. If it helps you see your son surely it can't be a bad thing? I would also suggest that you need to catch up with your csa payments if you can. Show willing and who knows what might happen. Remember your maintenance is for the good of your son.
oh and her new bf gets to move in with my son and raise him as his own
Do you know what? if your still on the scene and doing your best to be the greatest dad you can be - then it won't matter who is at home, you'll still be dad.
supervised contact is a start - take what you can get. You'll need to work with SS - so do your best to do everything they want you to.
Just keep your eyes on the prize - getting to spend time with your son.
Babel is right about the maintenance - you need to try to keep up to date. It will show that you have your son's best interests at heart (which we know you do).
I know you're finding the whole thing a little frustrating but hang in there. I know that you are able to do this. You have come so far already and dealt with a lot - don't give up, dig deep and push on.
I think the courts tend to be reluctant to punish the mother for breaking court orders, but it does happen and I certainly think you should be pursuing it otherwise your ex will think she can simply ignore the order with no consequence.
I'm sure others will also be on here to give more advice