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Daddies Do Too 6 years 5 days ago #37323

Hi All,

I am not sure if this is the right place to put this, however I have put together a page on FB

Daddies Do Too

Essentially just a place to get ideas for things to do with kids. I have set up a page, geared a bit more towards Dad's (mums more than welcome), for hints / tips / ideas & activities and other fun stuff come and have a look: -

Daddies Do Too

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Daddies Do Too 6 years 4 days ago #37399

Just a bit of an update, for anyone that is interested.

Daddies Do Too, is now on Twitter / Wordpress / Pintrest / Google+

I've decided instead of just doing this as a bit of fun, I am going to put some real effort into this. I want to become a better Dad and help others better themselves too.

The post I commented on from "Teacher" I think it was, kinda inspired me to push this further. I have been trying to better myself, since me and my littluns mum split. I have been working two Jobs trying to sort my money, putting time into Gym and diet, trying to make myself stronger, fitter, healthier. Trying to forward my career, and genuinely just better myself.

Reading that post, made me happy. I am progressing, I have sorted my priorities. I am putting first things first.......essentially I am being a man.

I don't want to look back in 5 years and think I should have done this. I certainly don't want my littlun to look at me with anything other than love. I want her to know I get things done, she can always rely on me, and that I will always be there.

So this blog is another step, to being a better man, and hopefully giving a little back to anyone else who wants help, needs inspiration or ideas etc.

So please help me to help me and you :)

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Daddies Do Too 6 years 4 days ago #37404

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Hi DDT

I've had a quick look at your blog - I'm only barely on facebook and twitter, and the rest I have no interest in at all, but what I saw looks good, so I hope it all picks up.

It sounds as though you are pretty well sorted out in your priorities, so keep posting as it will help inspire other dads as well :)
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Daddies Do Too 6 years 4 days ago #37407

Cheers ACTD,

I appreciate it, feel free to like the FB page then......truth be told, I am not a huge twitter fan! but you go where the people are.
Wordpress is just who is currently hosting the blog. but this maybe moving soon.

I am not sure how well it's going to take off (if at all) so not really wanting to spend any money just yet but time will tell :) fingers crossed eh :)

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You can always blog on here instead :) Guaranteed audience.

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Daddies Do Too 6 years 4 days ago #37409

TBH I think this place is great, I have been reading through quite a few bits, and so will keep things updated as much as possible. But want to be able to keep an eye on my own analytics and track how things are going and where etc.

So I will put things up.... but if people want the full content then they will have to select one of the ways that suits them lol. Who owns the Dad.info site? or is it an organisation?

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Daddies Do Too 6 years 3 days ago #37441

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I've just liked your FB page, there are a lot of pages that discuss and share information about the problems faced by parents coming up agains the family law system. I have made a few contacts myself.

Welcome aboard!
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Daddies Do Too 6 years 10 hours ago #37499

Glad to have you aboard :)

Always looking for more information / help / ideas etc.......so if you wanna pm me any links you have that'd be great :)

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Daddies Do Too 6 years 5 hours ago #37516

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I'll be happy to!

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Be a Man 5 years 10 months ago #38573

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Good Afternoon,

I want to apologise in advance for the shortness of this post. However I feel this is something that is important. Something as a man, we should all be doing but something that seems to be dying a horrible death. You know what not even necessarily just men, as it is annoying (but certainly more forgiving when a woman does this).

In day to day life I come into contact with a lot of people, both men and women. As part of courtesy, respect, building a rapport with people a handshake is usually customary (if people prefer not to shake hands, that is fine and it certainly isn’t a deal breaker).

However if you offer your hand out to someone, in the hopes of having it shaken, then please be sure to be firm. When you shake hands, I feel it is a good indication of the type of person you are.

Now I am not talking about trying to cripple the other man (or person should I say?) but simply providing a firm basis for a return shake.



When I shake your hand, if it resembles a dead fish or other limp / flaccid objects then please rest assured that you have dropped in my estimations as someone to do business with. I would have more respect for someone, who let me know they prefer not to shake hands. Either shake hands properly, or don’t…..there is no middle ground on this Dads! BE MEN!

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Daddies Do Too 5 years 10 months ago #38575

Dad Time

OK, so firstly Dads Time is not to be mistaken for of mixed up with “Dads Time” which hey may help you feel better about things as well. So feel free to do that as well if the mood takes you.

What is it?

How do I do it?

Is it OK?

The reason I decided to write this post is really quite simple. After the split of the ex Mrs DDT and myself, I was understandably upset as was she. We both knew we didn’t work together and that what that. However it was now about doing what is right for the kids.

I took this extremely seriously (and clearly I still do!) however I essentially broke down my entire social network and removed pretty much everything that I found fun. Sure I still went to the Gym, but that was ok it cost next to nothing and in my mind being physically fit, was something that would and will help my children.

Not only am I trying to be a good role model for their own personal health and diets, but also able to do more with and for them (playing / messing around / house work etc and if the need every arose protect them better).

However I stopped going out, I’m working a 50+ hour week and essentially, other than the gym had no time to myself, or with any friends. Pretty much any time I did have that wasn’t work was filled with either the kids, or sleep.

Over the following months, I began to become more and more depressed. But why? I had pretty much everything I needed, and didn’t want for much of anything. It got worse and I started seeing myself snapping at the kids and being grumpy and miserable and of little use to anyone.

So what did I do, I had to make a change. If you notice these traits in yourself, they are not healthy, in my opinion you need to look at yourself and the track you are on and evaluate if its actually healthy as I did. I came up (well it’s not branded or anything) with “Dad Time”

What is it?

To be honest you probably don’t need me to tell you what it is at this stage, and I don’t think it’s a new concept. However some times we need to be reminded of things.

So just in case, “Dad Time” is TIME for DAD you need to set aside at LEAST an hour per week to yourself, doing whatever it is you would like to do. Note I say at least, because if you like me are working your backside off, then you will probably need a little more than that.

This time can be spent doing anything that will help bring something to your life that is a little nicer, brings a little more joy and fun and relaxation. This can be anything from Computer games to books, Porn to Pints, Time with family or friends. I would suggest the more adult contact the better. By that I don’t necessarily mean jump on every passing female, but interacting with other adults socially. Time down the pub or on a night out, or hobbies and other such things.

I spent time with adults all day and night at work, but rarely interact with them on anything other than a work level. I have found we NEED that adult interaction.

How do I do it?

Well as I touched upon a little above, essentially you need to decide firstly what it is that you would like to do……then do it! Sounds simple? Well hopefully for most people it is. However a lot of men don’t have or lose a lot of friends during the whole getting into the family lifestyle (I know I did).

So maybe start by building a few bridges, Facebook and other social media, are a great place to start message an old mate, Find an old pal, even set up a “reunion” anything to increase your social circle if you feel this is dwelling, is a great start.

Maybe you left the people behind you no longer speak to for a reason, so its time to branch out.

- What are you interested in?

- Is there something you would like to try?

- Do you have somewhere you’d like to go?

This is your basis. If you have an interest, get online and find some like minded people and start talking.

If you want to try something, find out more information and book it, or if its something a little more expensive, plan it and look forward to it. Use it to motivate you to work harder and for fecksake get excited about it J

Do you have somewhere you’d like to go……..then get up and GO!

Whatever it is, it has to be for you! Enjoy the journey, Enjoy the experience, Enjoy time with yourself and others! Avoiding sounding Cliché

“If you don’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love anything else?”

Is it OK?

At first I felt guilty, and i’m sure you will too! It’s natural. Spending your resources on yourself (especially when you don’t have a lot), instead of on your kids is something a lot of us will struggle with. However this has got to be weighed up and put into context. You don’t have to spend money to have fun and interact with people, and at the very least any money can be minimised with planning and care.

This also isn’t a case of taking things from the kids. If you’re stressed, grumpy, miserable and have a short fuse to boot. What kind of fun are you or your kids going to be able to have together, my guess is very little.

Think of this as more of a trade off, you may be spending X amount doing something for you, however in return you are coming back ready and refreshed and raring to go and have a better time with the kids. Allowing for more happier memories, no one wants to look back and be remembered as miserable.

Just remember to keep things in proportion. This isn’t a case of blowing a wage packet and saying “I needed the time off” its a case of finding ways to re-charge your own batteries and provide a better mentality in your own mind. If you need a holiday and to spend copious amounts or money to do this, then so be it. BUT you better be sure to earn them pennies before you do to make sure you don’t end up in more debt, or worse come back from this “Dads Time” feeling guilty / broke / more ran down and worse off!

Since taking time for myself, and planning what i’m doing and making sure I get a release myself, I have 100% happier! My kids are happier with me and I am able to do more with them. I have more energy and capacity to do things they would like to do, without it causing me to become more stressed.

The circle has been broken :)

All the best guys and girls…….is it to early to start wishing people a merry Christmas?

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