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rights for dads 4 years 10 months ago #57888

i need help i am due to be a dad february 2015 and well i aint with the mother anymore and now we just keep argueing :/ ive tryed to be civil but we dont speak now! she says i cant be at the last scan and the waiting room which i think is wrong is she right? and she says when the babys born i can only see her on her terms which i thinks wrong is she right?

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rights for dads 4 years 10 months ago #57899

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Unfortunately, she can dictate this. I would try to be pleasant, let things settle a bit and try to be as amicable as possible. There's lots of Dads on here that have been in this scenario and they will be best placed to offer their thoughts on how to handle the emotional side of this.

If you can get amicable enough to get your name on the birth certificate, do. It will save a lot of problems further down the line. Ultimately, if she refuses contact once the baby is born, you will have to try mediation before considering any legal action as it's now mandatory.

It's worth having a look at a parenting plan, look in the stickies on the forum or on the Cafcass website to try and understand the sort of things you will need to think about that might help you in approaching your ex to open the lines of communication.

Good luck

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rights for dads 4 years 10 months ago #57924

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1626 has offered some good advice.... unfortunately pregnant women can be hormonally challenged,so you can only hope that as the pregnancy progresses her mood swings might settle down. How about sending her a bunch of flowers with a note to say that you understand how she might be feeling and that all you want is to be there for her through the pregnancy and to support them both once the baby has arrived and that whatever she decides will be ok with you.

As has been said there isn't anything you can do until the baby has been born and if the situation is unchanged then mediation is your best bet, try to avoid court at all costs but if no agreement can be reached and you are denied contact with your child then court may be your only alternative.

Good luck.

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Mum and Grandmother, supporting my son who has residency of his son.
I want to see a much fairer system in place, where Dads and their children have a voice that can be heard.
There are many groups of people that have equal rights within our society and its about time Dads were given equal rights too.
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