hi to all and will really happy if someone cud help me and also show me the best way to solve my issue with my ex and my two kids ...
I was in a rela for more than 9 years and have a daughter of 8 and also a boy with 6 ... after we split up in january suppose in matters with the kids was all good and running smooth but this last weeks have been hell to me i will just give you some points so u can understand many of my doubts
1) shud not a mother contact always the father of the childrens in case one goes to the hospital or even something more serious about there health ? last week found out that my boy broke is arm because on that same night i send a message to my ex asking how the kids are .. her reply past ten minutes was that my kid was in hospital with a broken arm ...
2) since they was moving to another town close to mine and i never been given the date of when was gona happen that same move after asking several times . found out last friday they moved ... and how ? well i text her on thursday telling her that was gona pick up the boy from school and arranged by us before at the start of the week . her reply was that he was not on that school anymore
3) for weeks been trying to ring my kids because of the age they dont have phones so i was trying to ring her mum so she can just pass the phone to them and allow me to speak . we even arranged dates and time for me to ring ( i done it ) and she just ignored me not even bothering to say nothing back
4) asked her this weekend to speak with me over the phone or even meet me face to face so we can chat about the kids yet again not possible
so basically i told her if she didnt changed her behaviour i will contact the mediaton . what i done and since then she even blocked me on facebook and i cant chat or even see my kids ... do i need to wait till we both go to that medation now and not even speak with my kids till all is sorted ?
thanks for any kind of help i just feel lost and feeling that im loosing my kids day by day
You are going to need to attempt mediation before going to court, it's now a requirement, so I'd get that sorted asap - if she refuses, then the mediator can sign off and you can then start the court process if necessary.
By the sounds of things she is putting the bariers up, and ignoring you when you call and blocked you on facebook, as already said you would need to attend mediation before you could apply to court, but I think your question was about whether you would be able to see or speak with your children before mediation.
I would say try and contact her to see if you can sort something out, but be careful that you don't pester her, I know that a few text isn't pestering and at the end of the day you want to see and speak with your children, but it;s not un common for mums to ignore calls and txt and block on social media and then when you keep trying to make contact call the police and claim harrasment, If she does do that it s likely that a non molestation order would be issued which although won't stop you from seeing your children it will slow down the whole proccess, If a non mol order is issued, some judges won't proceed with a case until it's been dealt with.