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Kash Jackson in the US needs worldwide support 3 years 1 month ago #77410

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I came across this guy from the US called Kash Jackson who is starting a campaign for fathers in the US and across the Western world from what he says on this video clip:

www.facebook.com/Fathers4kids/videos/1256095327754290/

Hope you are as impressed as I was by him, and his leadership qualities so I didn't try to tell him all the possible obstacles he may face from the powers that be backing their arguments by saying "its in the child's best interests!"

Graham

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Kash Jackson in the US needs worldwide support 3 years 1 month ago #77419

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The problem with worldwide campaigns is that family law differs so widely between countries that it would be difficult to get passed....some countries would sign up but some wouldn't.

I haven't watched the link, all of my time is taken up trying to help separated parents here....to learn US family law would be taking on too much I'm afraid.

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Kash Jackson in the US needs worldwide support 3 years 1 month ago #77424

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Dear Mojo,

Thanks for your post.

I don't think you need to worry too much about diverting your attention towards the US and every state in the US has their own family law I believe (some even mention the word "love" regarding relationships with children - a novel concept here in England I seem to remember from the days I used to follow such matters - my daughter is 32 yrs old now, and its more than 10 yrs since I marched round London with the EPC organised by Tony Coe, or Matt O'Connor and F4J).

Kash Jackson's views may emphasise changes to family law which I suspect are not in line with my views either (though I'm not sure as I only came across him yesterday - for example arguing for contact with children on the basis of "their best interests" and in this way being denied any parental rights in England/UK, as your website correctly points out - thus everyone using the term "child's best interests" especially as "THE" sole or paramount consideration is unwittingly denying parent's real rights).

However, if you do check out the link you will find the video clip entertaining and I do really admire the leadership he's giving and he certainly sounds he's faced the same problems we all faced when trying to keep contact with our children .

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Kash Jackson in the US needs worldwide support 3 years 1 month ago #77431

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I know that each State has it own version of family law....we do occasionally have users from the States but are unable to advise them, I have looked for national US charities/forums that I can link them to, but haven't really come up with much.

I think that terminology can be manipulated and there's too much emphasis on it here and somehow the mothers best interests are inexplicably linked to that of the child, with the father marginalised. There's still much wrong with out family law system, but I am of the mind that it's better to work with it and within it to try and effect change. I'm not a great fan of F4J as I believe Mr Connor has his own agenda.

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Kash Jackson in the US needs worldwide support 3 years 1 month ago #77454

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The best thing F4J did for me, and perhaps for others too was to change our attitude from basically the defeatist: "The situation is terrible but what can be done about it" to: "The situation is terrible something must be done about it!" Matt O'Connor's agenda you may be correct about and when I sent off for a copy of the F4J manifesto or whatever a copy didn't come through because I suspect they were so overwhelmed with people contacting them it went astray (luckily I found a copy at a later date, and as I may have said already they based their arguments too on what they thought were/are the child's best interests. I know some countries in the world, especially where respect for older people is a great part of their culture, refuse to accept decisions about children being solely about the children's interests and thus allow the interests of others to be taken into consideration too. A friend of mine who raised his own daughter and another child belonging to his second wife as his own summed things up by simply saying this: "Sometimes the child's interests come first, sometimes the parents interests must come first,( or other competing interests)" I used to ask the question "Is it a good thing to keep telling children their interests trump everyone else's interests" and you'd have to be a saint to achieve such perfect behaviour wouldn't you. My ex.mother-in-law, now long passed away, who stood only 4ft 8ins tall, once tried to throw me out of her house when I tried to relay a story to her of how I had tried to deal with the divided loyalties my chid was feeling during the early days of regular contact. I somehow knew if I kept pulling my daughter, or trying to pull her towards me lets say, then that would make my daughters life more awkward, so I told her something along the lines that she "mustn't think I came to see her because I wanted!." What I'd have said if she'd asked me why I did come then I don't know, but the look of relief on that little girls face was worth the slight deception, and she no longer had to feel disloyal to her mother if she enjoyed visiting me (her mother and "new daddy" did the trick of planning exciting events on the contact day I believe others have said this can be done as a way of manipulating the child)..

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