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Parental responsinility 6 years 10 months ago #15536

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Hi There,

I wonder if someone can help me.

I took the mother of my 2 children to court and won access and parental responsibility for them in Dec 2012.

Recently my ex has informed me she is looking into moving my eldest to a new school (my youngest is not in school yet). At first she informed me that I need to sign a letter requesting a placement at the new school along with her signature. Now she has told me she doesn't need me to sign the letter as I have no say in my daughter moving schools anyway.

I was aware that with my parental responsibility I have a say on if my daughter moves school or not.

Am I right or can my ex change my daughters school with out my approval?

Many thanks for your time.

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Re: Parental responsinility 6 years 9 months ago #15710

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Hi

Technically, I believe that you should have to give your consent, but realistically, unless there is a very good reason why you disapprove, there isn't a lot you can do. She should certainly inform you, which she has done and you are entitled to progress reports etc.

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Re: Parental responsinility 6 years 7 months ago #18253

...realistically there isnt a lot you can do...........words you will hear time and time again....so whats it all about eh chaps...a worthless bit of paper...easy money for solicitors..?.what a bunch of girls we have become...myself included..i wish there was something on mass we could do but lets face it, we are slowly becoming un neccessary..no longer required..easy to spit out....mice not men.

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Re: Parental responsinility 6 years 7 months ago #18340

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In reality, the parent with care is the one who has to deal with the practicalities of such decisions - if it really isn't in the best interests of the child (and you can't take the single decision in isolation, it is part of the whole situation) then a prohibited steps order is an option.

Look at it realistically, if the parent with care says the child is moving schools, and the non-resident parent objects, then what is the solution? Leaving a child where he/she is may cause a lot of problems for the parent with care, who, let's face it, does have to get the child to/from school, and deal with a hundred other day to day trivialities that the non-resident parent doesn't see.

I see this from the 'other' side - I am the parent with care, and I have moved my daughter recently to a school without consulting her mother because it was a school my daughter really wanted to go to and the application process was necessarily very quick - if I had asked my ex for her opinion/premission, she would probably have delayed the process to the extent that my daughter missed the place in the school. My ex has taken very little interest in my daughter's education (apart from relishing in any opportunity to criticise) so I feel she would not act in my daughter's best interests. Legally, what I did was wrong - or at least not ideal practice. Practically, what I did was absolutely correct.

I am not suggesting for one moment that parker would obstruct the process at all, but merely pointing out that it's not always a matter of right or wrong, but what is practical.

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Re: Parental responsinility 6 years 7 months ago #18375

...adding my tuppence worth...im the dad of two girls..
i didnt get parental responsibility til eldest was 8 ..wasnt married,split and found myself right-less..
.my daughters went to a small catholic school,against my wishes,
they were duly christenned behind my back at the ajoining church,again,without my 'consent'.
..being of no faith and believing every individuals right, or freedom,to chose their own faith,I questioned who indeed has the right to impose a religion,and who decides the childs access to education..
This year my eldest moved to secondary...,again i wasnt consulted though am happy with the school of mothers choice,....however,...my youngest remains in a school which has consistantly fallen in the league tables..this year 30th out of the 33 in the region..i really want my daughter out,..she walks to school passing two schools in top ten,but the mother rules and my concerns are scoffed at.
.every year i have to get a solicitor to write insisting i be given reports,and this year the sats results as well..mother got them in july...addressed to the parent [singular]so she,the mother.insists i have to get my own copy ....these i await..
I realise i come across a tad bitter,but when,with parental responsibilities i objected to the mothers new partner being around my children on the basis he was of dubious character,mentally unstable,etc i found legally he had to 'do something' before i could legally take steps to protect my children...a few months later he drove off a quayside and comitted suicide.[theres a tv programme 'front-line britain' which were filming the police dive team and ,,if anyone sees it,those car seats in the back were mine...thankfully he didnt take my kids with him and youl see the distraught police as they believed at the time the kids might have been..]
...my point?
It really annoys me that i have fathered two children,yet,because i havent taken part in a religious ceremony.ie married,i had to go to court to 'ask' for rights,responsibilities,contact with my children...then having 'won' i find i dont have any say in education..religion and i cannot stop any person being near my child if i so wish.but ive got papers i' bought 'from family courts r us. and we seem to walk away ..Fathers for justice made decent loving dads look like thugs or trekkies and i fear the last ammendments in family law were our lot..thats that..is there an alternate voice of fathers that organise ralleys etc ? because id like to be counted .. lets face it statistically there has to be more dads than mums.[.think about it !] anyway good luck chaps ..i hope you win...but its like these junk-mail million pound draws.. ' congratulations..youve won!.' ...the chance to win ..an entry into a draw..in which you could win one of the million £1 ...prizes.....a pound..!
..put bluntly we are 'babysitters' and we hire children from the women .we're.no longer loved by...i think the way forward is surrugacy.[.one more for spell-check..!.].id have been better paying a woman to have my child and handing it to me at birth! ....!
..Recently a solicitor 'off the record' mused that becomming a jehovahs witness carries weight in court..might google them later..!..

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LOVL at googling becoming a Jehovah's witness :D

Reading back on my post, I may have sounded harsh, and if I did, I apologise as it wasn't my intention to do so. The point I was making was that if the parents disagree, then one of them has to "win" and sensibly it has to be the one who is responsible for day to day care. Obviously, the ideal solution is that all decisions are shared and agreement is reached, but that often simply isn't practical.

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