My wife is at 11 weeks pregnant which we're delighted about as we've been trying to get pregnant for 4 years and this is our 5th round of IVF.
Our family and close friends obviously know the process we've been going through and recently we've shared the news that my wife is finally pregnant and everything's looking positive. I've been struck by the number of people who've congratulated us then followed this with a huge amount of doom and gloom about how bad it is being a parent: lack of sleep, no money, stress/worry, not knowing what you're doing etc etc. I really thought the majority of what we'd hear would be positive and, although it's mostly done tongue-in-cheek, it's made me feel anxious already at the prospect of what's to come thanks to all the negative comments.
Has anyone else experienced this? Do any fathers here have any advice, and can anyone share some positive experiences to help my panicking mind?!
Congratulations, it sounds as though its been a long journey,
The easiest answer to this is look around you family and friends, how many of them have more than one child, if things were that bad would they have had a 2nd or 3rd child?
I have a 14 year son and a 14 year old stepson and we are now expecting a baby in September, it can be hard and money can be tight but there are so many more positives than there are lows.
Forget about the stress worries late nights ect that people are saying about, every child is different my first well I’m sorry but she was so easy didn’t know we had her virtually slept from day one we thought what was the worrying about... but sadly my second didn’t really sleep always cried and was like this for over 2 years that was tough....
We are still here 18 years later and the worries are still here lol but different....
My late mum said I was still a worry to her even when I turned 39 lol
Everything will happen when it happens and you will instinctively know how to cope be there for your wife and share everything good and bad use grandparents sometimes to take time out with your wife quality time...
Parenting is a big responsibility but an amazing journey to go on... nothing I don’t think compares to it.. to see a baby that you both have created for the first time is a feeling that you will never of had in your life
Just relax and enjoy my friend and congratulations to you and your wife.. everything will be fine