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What do I do 1 week 6 days ago #100472

Without giving a long history of where I am today.

I've been married for 2.5 years, during that time I have left the relationship 3 times due to the person I fell in love with and the person to whom I've been married to being very different. I stress that each time I have walked is because I have exhausted or seen no other alternative.

I walked out for the 3rd time last week, behaviour changed massively and I asked her to do a pregnancy test which came back negative (or so we thought at the time) had it been positive at least there would have been some logical understanding to the erratic behaviour.

However it transpires that when putting the test in the bin it was in fact positive (I had walked by this point). Since then, another test has been done in my presence and she is in fact pregnant.

I'm happy I'm going to be a father and will not shy away from the emotional and financial upbringing that comes with it.

Here's the thing... Do I continue seperation from my wife now knowing there is my unborn child in loves, or do I re-engage with the relationship (if she agrees)?

I feel horrible and Imas there has always been friction between my wife and family, I know if I am to return I will be cut off from the family.

All the advice I am getting are from those that are to emotionally involved, so looking for some impartial advice with being told I horrible as only myself and my wife know what has happened in our marriage prior to this event.

Many Thanks

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What do I do 1 week 6 days ago #100474

hi,

as she's pregnant, you should see that as an opportunity to mend your relationship. she will probably behave erratic, hormones all over the place. i dont think you should keep separate from her or be horrible. she will see that as abandonment, and must feel worse while babies coming along. try your best. otherwise, she may just vanish one day along with the baby.

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What do I do 1 week 5 days ago #100482

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H there

As you have acknowledged in your post, before you left you suggested that her recent change in behaviour could be due to pregnancy...you were right, so I wonder... had you seen the test was positive at the time, would you have left?

A child does put a different slant on the situation, but unless you genuinely want your relationship to work, it shouldn’t be the only reason fo going back.

It might be worth suggesting some couples counselling to her, here’s a link to Relate

www.relate.org.uk

All the best

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DadTalk Moderator... I'm not legally trained and my responses are my own views based on my experiences of the family court. I have plenty of common sense and can offer you emotional support and guide you to answers.

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