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expecting again 7 years 8 months ago #10894

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Just found out that my wife is pregnant again(this will be our 4th) dont really know how to take the news i dont think it has sunk in properly yet. Totally unplanned and protection was used. With me not working still we are in a financial nightmare at the moment having to be helped by in-laws. I dont think there is any chance of my wife having an abortion as we both do not agree with them(although i dont think bad of anyone who has its just my feeling) its really not the right time for another child and i always said i wanted to stop at 3 and was looking into getting the snip i just dont know how to feel i dont want to go through this pregnancy resenting/not looking forward to the birth its not fair on the baby and then there are my 3 others who i love so much but feel like im letting them down by not providing like i should. Everything is just getting on top of me i dont eat very rearly sleep i have lost 3 stone in 3 weeks. On more than one occasion i have just burst into tears for no reason i really think im going insane.
Anyway sorry 4 going on i just had to get things of my chest and cant really talk to my wife as she has health issues that i dont want ot make worse

Cheers

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Re: expecting again 7 years 8 months ago #10895

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Hi curry

I think as you both go through the pregnancy, it will get better - you're both probably in a bit of shock at the moment. If you are serious about having a vasectomy, then I'd go and see your GP now as it may take a while to arrange and you may as do it before you have the baby, when you really won't have the time. It's not so bad - believe me, I speak from a lot of experience having had it done twice. :-)

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Re: expecting again 7 years 8 months ago #10897

Hi Curry

I'm not sure if congratulations is the right thing to say right now, but I'm sure that if you give it some time to sink in, your feelings will change.

I would talk to your wife though, she must have noticed the not eating/sleeping/bursting into tears, so she must think something's up anyway. I'm sure she'd hate to think that you couldnt talk to her, so have a chat, you'll both feel much better afterwards. Who knows, perhaps she's feeling the same, or maybe you'll hear something that changes your mind.

Either way mate, good luck

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