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TOPIC: at a loss cant cope

at a loss cant cope 1 month 3 weeks ago #101230

serious question I'm at such a big loss. I've got a partner been together 7 years got a older child previous relationship shes 8.


this is the basic of the story got together with my partner my ex caused shit constantly wouldnt ever end my partner bounded with my daughter but the ex just constantly stirred shit and my daughter obviously being a kid didnt help went back got questioned and ex kicked off about random stupid shit. ect my ex got with a new partner who was on the sex offenders I didnt get told and he kicked off constantly to the point my partner did handovers as it wasnt as full on. ex still kicked off ect ect then started reporting us got my daughter taken off me for a month while an investigation happend apanrly she didnt have a bed got dropped got her back not easy but did. carried on untill my partner got pregnant my daughter was 4 at this point not sure if I mentioned I had joint 50 50 half week but didnt get half of any money CB stand next and had a 1 bed flat also in this time my daughter always came grubby and something wrong ringworm infections bad hygiene stuff. but anyway my partner got pregnant we moved carried on obviously ex still kicked off constantly wouldnt leave us be we had our baby then she had a heel prick text at the hospital the doctor used to much force and hurt her we didnt notice till the day after we took her back they scanned and noticed she had fracture on the heel that opened a massive investigation to the point we lost her to a foster carer and went through court I also lost my eldest 4 yo moving on had contact 1 hour a day for 9 months while we went thro court and got arrested all part of the procedure I was told we got legal aid and fought it ended up bringing the hospital into court and cross examined. in this time I had contact with my oldest and it was hell hour a week contact centre and she would say random shit that was bad and was being told to stir stuff basically. mum got told all about the case then the day after reported us saying she said this and that which she wasnt meant to no but they gave my 4yo a interview in a police station anyway contact got stopped midway thro the court case with my 4yo due to social refusing to do it anymore and I kept trying to see her but ex said no and was also trying to no all about are case. anyway back to court we had our day I stood up partner stood up told truth hospital stood up and got ripped apart got found out to be lying covering each others tracks and we got her back nof further action and an apology worst time of my life I was on antidepressants at this time got used against me I came off when we got her back of fear of everyone coming for us again. got her back I tried to get my oldest for 1 year socialotor letters ect but ex had none of it wouldnt let me changed her number ect I had given up 6 months later she replied to a letter and we did mediation in mediation I found out my daughter was basically messed up from not seeing me ect and confused school noticed and shed dumped her bf and had a kid with him and now stopping him. I asked for every other weekend and some days in holidays eventually went to court and got it I got her back when she was 6. now on to the present got her back still get shit from ex my daughter comes grubby all the time and just generally it's hard because I cant do shit i hate my ex wish she would disappear but yeah every other weekend ect. my partner at th4 start was ok but over the years till now it's broken her again and now where having a baby due xmas. my daughter comes with infections grubby unhygienic ahelets foot the lot it breaks me I love her to bits but my partner has had enough since shes been pregnant more and more shes getting distant she says we only ever argue over her and shes terrified they will take our daughter again due to my child going back and saying loads of stuff and my ex being horrible. I completely agree we are both broken from before but it's so fucking hard when it's my child. it's gotten to the point that anything my daughter does my partner hates she hasnt been close to her for a very long time and with all the stuff that's happend it is very hard. but she basically wants it sepeate I see my daughter sometimes she comes here but we have our own life she keeps saying she wants to protect our children from my ex and my daughter brings them all in. I have no family atall my ex is best friends with the lot has xmas dinners all together e tc. my partner also has noone I am at a massive loss I can see why shed want it apart honestly I can if this was reversed and I had no bound and alot of resentment I'd oroberly feel the same but I just dont no what to do I feel completely broken I love them all. it's a long story because without the full story it wouldnt paint a bigger picture

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at a loss cant cope 6 days 5 hours ago #102477

hi there lostinblanc,

how is your situation now??

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