My ex is refusing to swap our weeks around so that when I have my children is in line with when my partner has her children. My children keep asking for this to happen and there is no reason I am aware of why it can’t be done. Partner will soon me moving in with me and as it stands the two sets of children will see each other for a couple of hours every other Monday.
In court in 3 weeks for final hearing and this is one of the points I’ve made in my statement ie her deliberate attempts to keep the four children’s from spending regular quality time together.
I would concentrate more on your final hearing. Most dads on this forum who are seeing kids all have same weekends. yes it may be frustrating but your kids and partners kids can see each other on Mondays and you could focus on holidays trying to get same days together and letting it go about the weekends. There are probably greater issues already for you to deal with at this final hearing.
Its about getting as much contact as you can , I imagine discussing kids spending same weekend together will probably make your ex even worse to deal with during final proceedings.
What contact have u been getting and what are u hoping to get as a final outcome?
I’ve had 3 night a week on average, have done for 18 months. Ex messed around school hols saying when I could and couldn’t have the children so after she refused mediation i applied to court for half of school hols in addition to the 3 nights a week.
Appreciate I already get a lot of overnights but that’s always been the case I’m just trying to sort the 25% of the year that remains a challenge.
My partner and her children will be moving in with me this year and to have the children only see each other every other Monday for 2 hours will be a nonsense particularly when they all keep asking to. My children have asked my ex to swap weeks around to match and she’s just said it’s my fault.
I know at final hearing they plan to try to reduce the amount of time I have my two but in late November ex emailed to say term time isn’t in dispute so bit hard to see how they’ll now create a case that it is.
Ex will just have to accept that my life has moved on accept the children want to spend weekends together regularly.
I’ve looked at it as as we each have a Fri-Sun, if we run school holidays weekly from a Friday that all fits well. If someone wants more than a week they just have the balance later eg a 10+4
In half terms its just Friday-Weds and Weds-Sun again starting with whoever’s weekend it falls
I know they will come up with all sorts of reasons why the current routine doesn’t work but I’m prepared for that. Already batted off several unfounded allegations with her own emails to me as evidence of their false claims
Not sure why it has to be such a battle but the stability this will bring is worth it I feel