Lee if you do what you say you will end up arrested and at this point you will probably never be able to any more kids as they would be a report on you and ss would have to be involved. Then your new women would not be pleased!!! If you really do not want to see your son anymore, just walk away, stop thinking about him. My Dad walked away, through my Mum being a difficult cow, he couldn’t take anymore. Years later I forgave my mum and dad as I didn’t want to go through my life with so much hate of being abandoned , and that is what you do if you walk away. Remember its not the childs fault, they can not do anything apart from look out of the window and hope there Daddy will come to see them
You are highly unlikely to ever get your name removed from the birth certificate no matter how violent you are or act to the court and involved parties. Your more likely to end up with your name flagged on SS records for ever more so that any future partner / kids will automatically be looked at and your ex will be given a non-molestation order and a residence order with it stipulated that you are not to have contact with the child. Its even possible that you behave in that way to SS/CAFCASS that you will end up with a further criminal record.
You might feel angry and bitter towards your ex, but the only person who will be hurt by all of the above is your child. Your ex will have won, you have played into their hands and they have what you want. The proof that you are a violent, angry agressive bully and justifies the story she will be saying that she had to stop contact because you are dangerous. She wont give a toss.
So whats the answer? from the last few posts the only way of getting peace is to top my self! Well i aint up for that. And i wanna make something clear im not doing this so i can get out of maintenance or csa, I WANT CLOUSURE I am not living the next 16yrs in a situation that i can see my son when my ex is well or in a good mood, or on the condition im not with someone else, As for the violence and threats to ss and cafcass to get what i want. that would not be an issue with future partners cos for a start i will print this lot off lol.
I cannot win this battle and if i could i would and i would never give up! With PR removed i cannot be contacted for any reason how long till shes not getting her way and im getting "oh his ill you gotta come doctors/hospital or you gotta come to open night/parents evening" and telling schools etc ive got pr and giving my details over!
But Lee, she can she can do all of that anyway whether you have PR or not.
99% of the time fathers are moaning that even with PR they cant get any information from schools, doctors, etc because their ex has told them not to give it out, so the odds of you being bombarded with information from 3rd parties is really really slim.
Your problem is your ex, and shes going to be the problem with or without PR. She can give schools your details and request they send information to you, you write back and tell them you dont want it, or file it under bin. School dont send it. Even if you dont have PR she can still contact you if childs ill, and you choose whether or not to respond.
Ultimately PR is worthless unless you choose to exercise the rights & responsibilities it gives you.
She cannot force you to have contact with a child if you dont want to have contact.
No judge in the land will force you to have contact or any involvement if you dont want it.
Change your phone number, make sure you dont give it to your ex and walk away and never look back.
As a matter of interest, do you drive? If you have a bad experience driving and decide you never want to drive again, would you try to get you driving test result cancelled? I doubt it - I imagine you'd simply not get behind the wheel again. The birth certificate is a legal document stating the fact of who the mother and father is and this confers certain rights to you but doesn't force you to accept those rights except that of maintenance and if you weren't on the certificate and didn't have PR, you'd still have to pay maintenance as that's the law. If you don't want PR, then don't exercise it, but don't do anything that would hurt your child - they are totally innocent.
she is still driving me mad, she was asking me this sat and sunday "are you gonna have him" how do i make her go away for good, i think its time my new gf meet her she has offered but i have asked her not to fearing the backlash, . . . i want this rat out of my life!
You just tell her no. Tell her you have decided not to have contact with your child anymore and if she keeps contacting you, you will view it as harassement and apply for a restraining order.
Or ring the provider and have her number blocked. Set your facebook so only friends can message you. Tell social services you do not want contact with your son, and that you will not enter any further correspondence with them
However the chances of you having your PR removed are so slight, and you would have to be so violent and nasty and such extreme circumstances that it runs a worse chace of messing up your life more.
Dont you see that? If you are so dangerous and nutty, you will be on Social Services records. You might well have a child with your new partner. The second you are named as its father SS will be involved. Do you think they will just go away when you say ahhh well i was only so dangerous and violent because i wanted to get rid of my ex? Or do you think they will be demanding you jump through all the same hoops you are refusing to jump through now?
if i did decide to have a child in the future (however im not im 42 and this is my first and only trust me it wont be going on again) how would i be involved with ss anyway and they could only get involved if there was arrests/charges/incidents with the new partner and there wouldnt be!!!