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Hello :) Access denied ! 6 years 2 months ago #57956

Just sticking my head through the door and saying hi and I'm still here. --- I can't really get on with this new look website though.

Not much has changed, apart from the ex is/has now stopped all contact again.... Against the court order.

I still go to the meeting point as per court order at the agreed time. I take a photo of the location for evidence. So, I am attending handover.

Reasons that I can see so far for declining access are:-

1) She asked for a baby walker that I have.... The fact she demanded it got my back up, so I politely declined and made her aware that i buy items for child use at my house and that I pay monthly for upkeep.

2) She wanted 2 months money up front - (Before asking for baby walker) - I declined as I can't afford this. AND (i did not say this part) but its not my issue to ensure she has money in her pocket.

3) I have a new partner. -- I do NOT understand nor see how having a new partner will affect my ability to be a father. So, jealousy is a factor I think.


Have written to the courts with help from fellow members on here on the back of the previous court order in the hope that they may be able to "do something". So far, no reply from court.

Having to completely ignore the ex and her SMS's because she is trying to be nice at the moment BUT as soon as I reply, it will get nasty again. Not what I want BUT until this is sorted, not much else I can do.

Sadly, this also means not knowing how my child is..... Thats quite hard.


Also have a solicitor who is going to write to the ex and going to ensure that she knows what is going on. Luckily my solicitor is also a Judge! So, he knows whats what.


On a brighter note, I emailed the nursery this week asking why they have not been in touch about my childs well being at nursery and why I've not heard about any events taking place (Parents eve and alike).

I had a meeting last Aug with them to get all this sorted then! -- I gave birth cert and court orders explaining I had P.R

They have acknowledged (via email) that they had made a massive mistake and that they would now be in touch monthly and all letters etc would be going via me too,.

So, slowly slowly we getting there!

Thats my update for now!

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Hello :) Access denied ! 6 years 2 months ago #57957

Hi life,

Thanks for the up-date, It's good to know that no matter how slowly you are getting somewhere.

Your doing the right thing ignoring the messages as you don't want to get dragged into that.

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Hello :) Access denied ! 6 years 2 months ago #57958

Be nice to see child before / @ Xmas though! As per order!

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Hello :) Access denied ! 6 years 2 months ago #58019

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Hopefully your solicitor has contacts who can enforce some penalties on your ex for breaking the contact orders.

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Hello :) Access denied ! 6 years 2 months ago #58045

That was our thought too.

:)

The next question I have is this. :-

We've been forced to "ignore" the ex due to the amount of sheer rubbish spoken and the vile texts she's been sending.

It's now been six weeks of zero contact with child and the court order has been broken.

Should we continue with the zero contact with her until court / solicitor action (She still sends abuse via SMS) or do we risk again more abuse and hurt to try and see how child is?

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Hello :) Access denied ! 6 years 2 months ago #58048

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Are you still turning up for handovers?

If so, you could just email / txt back to confirm that you are still attending handovers in the hope of seeing your son as per the court order and appreciate any update on his welfare. Don't engage with any other points.

What a nightmare she is :(

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Hello :) Access denied ! 6 years 2 months ago #58049

Defo still turning up. Taking a photo at the location as a backup type of proof to show I've been there.

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Hello :) Access denied ! 6 years 2 months ago #58083

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Hi for what its worth we had the same issue , contact stopped on a whim, so we sent a solicitors letter and she had 14 days to respond or court action, she responded on the 14th day and contact resumed, so hopefully the letter will work ..

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It looks like LNH's son won't be here for christmas....
The mother did threaten to do this, despite the court order stating that the boy is to spend Christmas Eve
with us.
She text some time ago...:" It'll be lonely this christmas..."
But I did say to LNH that we are going to have another xmas day when we finally get to see him again....

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Hello :) Access denied ! 6 years 2 months ago #58223

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She really is burning bridges with the court isn't she. Hopefully this will be the last christmas where this happens.

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