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So guys rate my chances-full residency of daughter 3 years 7 months ago #68244

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Would you be able to agree to letting the mother keep the financial benefits, if you remove the obstacle that is stopping the mother from letting your daughter live with you it might be possible to avoid court.

If she agrees, give it six months and then apply for the benefits yourself. As your daughter will have been with you for while and settled in a new school, there's no way the authorities would make her go back....just a thought.

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So guys rate my chances-full residency of daughter 3 years 7 months ago #68245

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Thanks for the replies, the main problem is however that she would have to change schools, and to do that i'm led to believe would require a socitors letter or at least the child benefit in my name? I really dont know what to do now as the forms are going in to court tomorrow :-/

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So guys rate my chances-full residency of daughter 3 years 7 months ago #68251

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Quick question. Do you think it would be beneficial for me to ask the ex to do a trial from Oct half term until Xmas? I'm pretty sure she will instantly say no but it may look like I've tried all avenues to the court/cafcass

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So guys rate my chances-full residency of daughter 3 years 7 months ago #68258

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Hi Hackett,
Yes, that would be a good idea, but how would your daughter change schools for half a term (possibly)?
I like Nanny Jane's suggestion above - very cunning!
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So guys rate my chances-full residency of daughter 3 years 7 months ago #68260

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I asked......and she instantly replied saying no, it will only cause daughter more upset. I honestly am getting so racked off with her and her blinkers. Oh well court paperwork is ready and will be going in tomorrow. I've also attached a small statement and my parenting plan, wish me luck.

As much as i would love to just say to her "just don't go back" on a sunday, i feel like it would be the start of a war and i'm keen to keep everything above board. Anyway thanks for everything, i shall keep you all posted.

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Good fortune Hackett,
I hope it all goes well for you and your daughter.
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So guys rate my chances-full residency of daughter 3 years 7 months ago #68269

Play dirty. Play them at their own game. Thats what I say. And thats exactly what I;m doing.

Fight fire with fire

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So guys rate my chances-full residency of daughter 3 years 7 months ago #68270

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Yeah I know what you mean. But I still have contact with them every other weekend and most school hols. If I play dirty then all she would do is do the same to me when daughter is supposed to come back. She's has no morals and couldn't care less about anyone other than herself. The fact the kids wouldn't see their dad would literally not bother her for a nano second.

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So guys rate my chances-full residency of daughter 3 years 7 months ago #68290

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Hi Hackett

Did you post your forms off yet?

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I have several years experience supporting parents in family proceedings as a McKenzie Friend. I am, however, not a lawyer or barrister and my responses are based on my own opinions or experiences of the family court.

So guys rate my chances-full residency of daughter 3 years 7 months ago #68291

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I'm hand delivering them in about 3 hours. Why's that Yoda?

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I would just say (having spotted it in one your earlier replies) it's not advisable to give a statement in with the C100 as your ex will receive a copy and you give her a golden egg of time to prepare to all your points. Ordinarily for a first hearing you take the statement with you and hand your ex and the court usher a copy then. No longer than 2 to 3 pages, keep it brief and concise, bit of background, what you would like the court to do and why. The judge will order full statements during the proceedings.

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So guys rate my chances-full residency of daughter 3 years 7 months ago #68293

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Ok. Excellent thanks very much. I had thought that tbh. Would be nice to not reveal my cards right at the start.

Many thanks.

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