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Child contact advise 4 years 4 months ago #73207

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Hi

I'm really hoping someone can give me a bit of advice....

Where I am at now is that I have attended a mediation session and was advised that the ex had been informed and was due to see them this month. I've now just had a call to say that she has refused mediation and that the next port of call is to fill in the C100 form. I don't have a problem with that at all but I'm just wondering if anyone else here has been in the same boat as me and has now come out of the storm unscathed as such? How long did it take to go to court and were you satisfied with the outcome? I get my two children for 6 hours on a weekend day. I try to call in the week to speak to them (they are 4 and 2) but my calls are often ignored and not returned either. I haven't been allowed to take them on any holidays. I was told last Christmas that this year it could be my turn to have them but she changed her mind. I'll be lucky to see them on their birthday's if they fall on the specific weekend day that I have them. It's so frustrating and I really feel as if I am banging my head against a brick wall at times.

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Child contact advise 4 years 4 months ago #73210

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Hi there

I hope you don't mind but I've moved your post into its own thread, tagging onto the end of other members threads can mean that it is overlooked and doesn't get much response. Hopefully member will be along to share there experiences with you, there are plenty that have been in the same boat as you.

Going to court creates a lot of strain between separated parents and it can be an emotional roller coaster, but as long as you keep your eye on the ball, try to rise above petty squabbles and keep your children at the centre of it all you should be fine.

I'm pretty sure, as long as there are no safeguarding issues you can expect to come out of it with an order for much more than 6 hours at the weekend. Generally orders contain contact for full weekends (which could be fortnightly), midweek contact, holidays and shared christmas and birthdays too.

When you fill in the C100 make sure you ask for an interim Child Arrangements Order for contact to commence straight away and specify what you would like that to be, perhaps a full day at the weekend and a midweek visit initially, progressing to full weekends, extra time during the holidays and alternate christmas and birthdays in the final order.

Best of luck

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Child contact advise 4 years 4 months ago #73222

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I would echo what Mojo says. Going to court is not easy but you would certainly get a lot more contact than you have no (provided there are no safeguarding issues). There's lots of info in the stickies at the top of the Legal Eagle section and we can offer ongoing support here on the forum.

Good luck

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Child contact advise 4 years 4 months ago #73235

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Thank you very much for your help. I'll definitely look into those bits you've mentioned!

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