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CHILD ARRANGEMENT ORDER. 2 years 10 months ago #90417

I have a child arrangement order for weekly Saturdays half days, I was wishing for fortnightly all weekend which would of been perfect for myself and the Ex really but she refused overnights so Ajorned on an interim, Child has a hobbie Sunday, Ex has always said I am banned which I am not AND SHE KNOWS HOW TO HURT ME AND THAT'S BY ME NOT WATCHING HIS SPORT. The club have said I am not banned and welcome to attend, I am not banned by any Council ( locations of events ) so as my Son is in the care of the club surely I can attend and watch. THANK YOU.

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CHILD ARRANGEMENT ORDER. 2 years 10 months ago #90419

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Unless there's a court order prohibiting you from attending an event, and the club have said you're welcome, I don't see any reason why you couldn't go and watch him. Stay well away from the mother and if she starts trouble I would advise you not to rise to it and consider leaving soas not to upset your child. You can then bring this up in court at the next hearing.

As you have an ongoing court case, you could think about asking the court to include attendance at sporting events in the final order. If you are successful in getting a full weekend every fortnight, you would have to take him on your weekends anyway.

Hopefully you will get an increased schedule of contact as your case progresses through court. Asking for a full weekend every fortnight is absolutely reasonable and you could also ask for a midweek weekly contact too. It's also acceptable to ask for a share of school holidays and shared Christmas and birthdays.

Best of luck

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CHILD ARRANGEMENT ORDER. 2 years 10 months ago #90420

Thank you very much, I have kept my council on this ( only 5 friends know ) and all of them say "go and don't be bulled by her " and what you said...Naturally the sporting club's parents know as I have not been for 8 months and she says what she wishes to them and to 600+ on social media, thank you very much, I will be writing to the club 1st and addressing my letter to a coach who is a Policeman incase she were to "make a phone call" if I arrive. Thanks again.

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CHILD ARRANGEMENT ORDER. 2 years 10 months ago #90473

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You're welcome... Please do let us know how you get on and if you need anything further, please don't hesitate to ask.

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CHILD ARRANGEMENT ORDER. 2 years 10 months ago #90580

My Son has a cup semi final this Sunday so the question is do I have the courage to go, Manager and coach though a third party have told me location and time...It would not surprise me if she phones the police and if they turn up ( if they don't say she is wasting their time ) I would say go speak to Manager.

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CHILD ARRANGEMENT ORDER. 2 years 10 months ago #90583

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You could give the police a call and discuss it with them, making them aware that apart from ongoing child contact proceedings, where you have an interim order for contact in place, there is no court order in place to prohibit you from attending, or from being in proximity to your ex or your child. Explain that you have contacted the manager of the team and they have no problem with you attending, it's only the mother that is objecting, and you're worried she will try and cause trouble. Give assurances that you will stand well away from her and not interact with her. I'm pretty sure they will say it's not a police matter but you could ask them to make a note of your concerns.

Or you can just take the bull by the horns and go! Stay well away from her, it might be helpful to take a friend or other family member with you for moral support. If she creates a problem, don't rise to it and walk away. You don't want to upset your boy, but hopefully the mother will think,twice about doing that too.

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CHILD ARRANGEMENT ORDER. 2 years 10 months ago #90691

Thdnk you,I did not go as I could foresee the accusation that I have spoiled mother's day for loads of people,maybe next week I will have the courage after I have written to Cafcass.

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