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Latest update 10 months 1 week ago #92319

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So finally the judgement has been handed down, and the court has ordered:

16.2 – Child to be made party to proceedings

16.4 – Children’s Guardian to be appointed - Solicitor for (child) also appointed as part of this.

Previous CAFCASS officer to be removed and not be the Children’s Guardian as he did not feel they had the experience in such extreme implacable hostility or alienation cases, nor did he feel they had true impartiality based on complaints made against them.

Psychologist to report on why (child) is refusing to have any contact direct or indirect with me despite there being no reason why contact should not be happening apart from the ex stopping it from happening.
What is preventing (child) from wanting to contact me or have contact with me.
Psychologist to also speak and report on me and the ex.
And then report to court on all this and what if anything can be done to re-establish contact between me and (child).

The time scale on all this takes us to Jan 2019 – so another summer lost, another birthday missed, another Christmas missed.
However, that’s assuming the ex does not appeal the judgement which her solicitor advised they were seeking council as to if an appeal could be lodged.
They were told that the judge had anticipated she would not be happy with the judgement and that was why he went in to more detail and history of the case in his judgement and applying the letter of law as and where appropriate so that no one could be left in doubt that he was correct in his judgement.

So….i have less than 21days of waiting now to see if her solicitor can find an error in law in the judgement.
Then Fingers crossed, it’s all systems go for getting (child) the help they so desperately need.

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Latest update 10 months 1 week ago #92332

All sounding very positive.

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Latest update 10 months 1 week ago #92334

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At long last you have a judge that will do what is required, you must be so relieved and cautiously optimistic. Even though I’m sure you’re keeping all expectations in check.

Thanks for the update dad-i-d.

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Latest update 10 months 1 week ago #92345

Pleased for you, dad-i-d. Your patience and persistence in this long slog is exemplary. Hopefully they don't lodge an appeal and things can move forward faster for the good of your child and yourself.

All the best.

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Latest update 10 months 1 week ago #92346

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Thanks all.

And yes I’m cautiously optimistic. I can’t see any reason they can appeal it, the judge has been thorough and they know it!
From my own experiences and reading so many cases, these cases despite overwhelming evidence can be a bit of a lottery where CAFCASS are involved…my worry is that the CAFCASS officer being appointed as Guardian may well back the colleague up that i put complaints in about and now that the judge has kicked her out the case too, i just fear that they will “have each other’s back” so to speak.
I’m not worried one bit on myself speaking with a psychologist, I’ve nothing to hide, I’m a tell it as i see it kind of guy and don’t keep secrets or make false accusations
i hope that i get to speak with them first so i can at least give the back ground history and childhood issues that i think the ex will hide from him that i believe are part of the reasons for the ex’s anxieties and hostility towards me.
Fingers crossed

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Latest update 10 months 1 week ago #92347

Hi

If you would like a heads up on what the psychologist meeting might be like PM me.

Harli
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Latest update 10 months 1 week ago #92349

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Thank you Harli, i very much appreciate your offer, PM on it’s way later when home from work :-)

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Well it's D-Day from tomorrow for two days....cannot do any more than i can do on my own, lets see how i fare against her legal team and see if the judge will actually make an example out of the ex.

in two days time i will have an idea of if this is ever going to be salvagable or if i have no option but to walk away and be left with the reality of never seeing any part of my child's remaining childhood....lost half of that in the last 9yrs fighting the wicked witch.

if the worst happens then i will be seriously considering going to the press and try to expose the failings of Crapcass and the family courts on our children.

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Parental Alienation is real and is abuse!

Latest update 2 months 3 weeks ago #97110

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Wishing you the very very best of luck.

Please do let us know how you get on......
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Latest update 2 months 3 weeks ago #97122

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All the very best to you Dad-i-d, you really deserve for this to go your way and so does your child. Got everything crossed for you.
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Latest update 2 months 3 weeks ago #97127

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What an absolute joke.
The hearing has had to be adjourned because the psychologist didn't bother turning up on time...I wont go in to too much detail for fear of it uncovering me.
But as the Psyc is key to this case as the judge agrees then psyc has to be present and given time to read the case again to refresh their memory.

Seriously seriously Pee'd off
Total waste of a day off work.

Thank God I'm not paying for legal representation like the ex is lol

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Parental Alienation is real and is abuse!

Latest update 2 months 3 weeks ago #97137

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Oh no.....how long has it been adjourned for? Really winds me up when things like this happen. It's people's lives that are getting messed up!

I was in court a couple of months ago & when we arrived we were told that the hearing wasn't until 6 weeks later. The court had sent out the wrong date!!

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