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Is this reality. 5 months 2 weeks ago #95964

There won't be any punishment for her, no. Don't bother trying to understand why because you won't like the answer - I wasted a few months of bitterness over my ex and her lies before I just accepted that I had been cleared of all allegations at my fact finding.

Ask the barrister to present your evidence at the start of the hearing.

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Is this reality. 5 months 2 weeks ago #95965

If you go here: www.courtserve.net you should be able to find your case by court complex and case number. Useful for researching judges ;)

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Is this reality. 5 months 2 weeks ago #95974

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One of the advantages in having legal representation is that it should take some of the pressure off the litigant.

We aren’t legally trained, but we have experience and a few assist as MFs. Our aim is to give general advice and support.

I would talk to your barrister about the fresh evidence from your bank and how best to introduce it, if that is indeed what is best for your case.

As has already been said, it’s good news that you have a senior judge, hopefully they will cut to the chase quickly and see through all the smokescreens. Remember the courts priority is the safety and well being of the children, don’t forget that your emphasis needs to be on your children rather than the wrong doings of your ex.

All the best

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Is this reality. 5 months 3 days ago #96296

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I went to my fact finding today. I guess it was a bittersweet tactical victory. Both me and my barrister wanted to do the fact find and pretty confident we would win but aware it could make the children's proceedings FUBAR if it went wrong.

He managed to strike a non admittance++ deal. If I surrender the tenancy of my house to the ex, she would drop her claims of 4 years of rape, DV, ect, ect, which she agreed to in a heartbeat (not suspious at all...) And that her allegations will have no effect at all on children's proceedings ect or be used else where ever again.

Surpisely the false allegation he was most worried about was that my ex said I insulted her in front of the children for all the relationship. He said how can anyone prove it? It's a 50/50 coin toss for the judge and would damn me if I lossed it and had findings. He managed to get it changed that we both insulted each other in front of the children. With no admittance from me.

He also managed to get the prohibited steps order swapped from the sex offender and put directly on the ex, so she would be in trouble if she went near him and more likely to put her off from doing so.

He was a fantastic junior barrister. He told me its obvious shes a nasty scammer and im a muppet for loving her but we cant choose who we love as he painfully knows.
Part of me wishes I took the chance, that the ex faced punishment for her lies and painful I lost my castle. I start the children's proceedings with a clean slate however and get both boys for Christmas. Will be the first time I seen them together for 6 months.

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Is this reality. 5 months 2 days ago #96323

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There’s a lot of positives to be taken from your hearing, not least that you have a good barrister that is obviously on the ball and you get to see your boys for Christmas... that’s a result in my book.

Court is about compromise and moving forward, you’ve managed both... well done.

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Is this reality. 5 months 1 day ago #96340

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I agree with mojo - it's about what is going to get you the best result in the future, not about trying to get her punished in any way for the past. Sounds like you do have a good barrister - a good one can get good results out of court, as well as in court.

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