TOPIC: Abuse

Abuse 11 months 3 weeks ago #95603

Hi if you meant personal message didn't get one. Had the caffcass phone interview today and it made no sense at all,she asked me nothing just briefly what had happened prior to my court application. Then said it would be necessary to do an s7 report which would take 12 weeks!! She asked nothing about any old convictions just that they would be telling the social worker involved to do it. They have already said there are no safeguarding issues so why just seems they have made their mind up based on my past I'm at my white end and to be honest at the point of giving up I've done nothing and been fully co operative and understanding of everyone in this just to be kicked again it's pathetic and is pushing me to the absolutel edge!!!!!

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Abuse 11 months 3 weeks ago #95617

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It’s quite usual for a more detailed S7 report to be requested where there have been allegations made, try not to get stressed out about it.

It can often feel like nothing’s going right, we’ve all felt like that, but in the end things turn out ok... just keep chipping away at it, do what’s asked of you and take it one step at a time, you’ll get there.

You’re going to need plenty of patience, it’s a given. .. you also need to stay strong and take care of the basics like getting enough sleep and eating regularly. Don’t forget to give yourself a break and take time out to do something you enjoy, being kind to yourself is important.


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Abuse 11 months 3 weeks ago #95620

Thankyou for all your advice and help Mojo it's very much appreciated and I shall take it on board and try my best. Thanks Steve

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Abuse 11 months 3 weeks ago #95657

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Given what has been said by the SW previously, I can't see the S7 report going in the mother's favour.

I would also add that in your position statement, you can ask the court for permission to file the Children's Services paperwork that you have to date. Take 3 copies of it with you in case the court is agreeable to accepting the evidence.

Due to how the mother is behaving, unless she agrees to a sensible interim arrangement, be prepared to accept contact being supervised at a centre or by a neutral third party. This is to protect you, not your daughter!

Best of luck
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Abuse 11 months 1 week ago #96004

Hi got the section 2 report ahead of court and if I'm honest it's a joke focus is solely that I have a criminal record for violence in 1990 and not in any way was it towards a child purely drunken brawling so how the hell is this relevant? Plus my ex didn't undertake a safe guarding interview as they put it"through no fault of her own"!!! Ridiculous it's been 3 months even the pope gets 20 minutes spare in that time surely this is wrong?
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Okay so is this a Schedule 2 Safeguarding letter, or a Section 7 Report?

Don't focus on the content - what are the recommendations at the back of the document?

A criminal record from almost 30 years is likely to be considered historic by the courts.

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Abuse 11 months 1 week ago #96011

Thanks it's a schedule 2 safeguarding letter at the end it just says no safeguarding issues were found by the social services and my daughter would benefit from contact with me and that the social worker I have been dealing with should make recommendations on interim contact and do the S7 report? Thanks Steve

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All sounds very positive to me then. They're clearly not bothered about your previous conviction and have recommended contact start.

Do you disagree with it at all?

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Abuse 11 months 1 week ago #96020

Hi and thanks I don't disagree as such just facts are wrong such as charges a couple of which I was acquitted they mention them then say the police took no further action which is rubbish I was acquitted by the judge not found not guilty and an aquital is a totally different thing as far as I am aware it shouldn't be on my record as it is a declaration of innocence by the judge not guilty means they couldn't prove your guilt not that you were innocent. I'm probably just nit picking but it does annoy me. Thanks Steve

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Abuse 11 months 1 week ago #96031

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Have you spoken to the person that prepared the S2 to ask them to amend it to reflect the acquittal?

Otherwise you can prepare a brief position statement to take with youro the hearing to cover this.

The recommendations made are favourable, best of luck moving forward.

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Abuse 11 months 6 days ago #96060

Hello I didn't have time to get hold of them as fhdra was yesterday . Didn't get any interim order I asked but was told it wasn't possible he said the social worker would facilitate this despite asking her politely she just refused. She is still claiming my partner has hurt my daughter despite the social services and police looking into it and finding no issues. Her statement to court was just pure rubbish and full of contradiction at taking the social worker's report laughable she put she has no problem at all with me seeing my daughter and then refuses. The social worker did ring me to see how it had gone and didn't seem impressed he obviously has to do the S7 report which led them to adjourn it to March I am already at my white end with all this and the thought of facing Christmas without seeing my little girl is tearing me apart. The social worker has said he will be asking for contact but she will just refuse for spite I am finding it difficult to control myself in the face of constant easily disproved lies by this woman whilst my little girl suffers it's ridiculous and I don't see an end in sight to be honest
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Abuse 11 months 5 days ago #96076

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So sorry to hear this Steve. All I can suggest is that you keep in regular contact with the Social Worker and push him to arrange contact, have you suggested supervised contact in a contact centre?

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