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help? 1 month 3 weeks ago #96355

Oldest story in the book but need help.

my ex is accusing me of everything she can come up with, the other part is she is a sneaky little *****. I know this kind had to deal with them all my life, find cracks in how to do things like, between my parents for instance one could not prove DV so a few days later filed a police report about something or other then all of a sudden it was all proved though was another game. My ex is exactly the same as that, will find any way to get her own way and what she wants to happen.

Can you actually get investigated and arrested for these accusations during the process?.

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help? 1 month 3 weeks ago #96358

Depends on if they take her seriously enough and feel she is at risk based solely on her word!
My ex tried to have me arrested for calling her a her a silly cow in an argument!
She succeeded a year later in getting me arrested by falsely claiming I'd hit her during an argument and the reason was because I refused to leave our house where I was living during the argument.

Some will get advice on how to get you out the house or what she needs to do to get you from being near her etc.... from other female friends and definitely from the DV units at the police if she goes to them.

You need to become whiter than white, avoid conflict, arguments, anything that could become her word and acting against your word.

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i'm not legally trained....i'm just a Dad going through hell to see his child grow up and become a decent man and human being.....my goal is simple...to be the father to my child like my father is to me...my hero.

Started this battle 2010.....who knows when the fighting will stop!

Parental Alienation is real and is abuse!

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D-i-d is correct about being whiter than white - assume anything you so or do could be put before a court, so make sure that there is nothing that will make you look at all bad.

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help? 1 month 3 weeks ago #96369

"Parental Alienation is real and is abuse! " no true words ever spoken.

I should be as clean as a preachers sheets, only reason I have ever got involved in police matters were my mothers games where try include me e,g " tell them you saw him hitting me" or when my condition makes me vanish into nowhere and someone calls them to track me down.

The only real thing about me is people get intimidated, but only seems to be people that do wrong. Take my ex, shouting at me, threatening me with a weapon and does not seem off to her to do it and she registers a zero on the threat scale, abuse me all you like I don't care. When it involves my child walking in on it, can see the fear in her face knowing the scale has changed because no one shall abuse my child and was taken more seriously. Instantly dropping the weapon, running upstairs at road runner speed. Then starts to fear consequences, didn't have to do anything.

Truth is I am afraid of her, not the other way round well didnt seem to be afraid with all the things she did to me. I messed up in court because i was scared of her, i dare not challenge her.

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Good morn Painkiller,

I'm sorry to hear of your plight. Unfortunately it is not a rare occurrence.

As commentators have said above, you have to be whiter than white, although that may not save you from being arrested.

The attachment below is taken from the Metropolitan Police's Domestic Violence Policy version 2.1. In essence it says to police officers: 'arrest the suspect - and if you don't you have to explain why you have not'.

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Addendum: The Metropolitan Police's Domestic Violence Policy has been released under the Freedom of Information Act (although not exactly publicised), see attachment.
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This should work both ways... if a man is reporting DV and is being ignored, he can point them in the direction of this policy and expect that they will act on it... otherwise take it higher and involve your MP.

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I'm not a lawyer or barrister and my responses are based on my own opinions or experiences of the family court.

I may not be legally trained... but I have plenty of experience and common sense!

help? 1 month 3 weeks ago #96388

To be honest I think its sick, I am going to be making allegations toward my ex too though I really cant be bothered with as insignificant she is to me. Really if you have to fabricate and use underhanded tactics to remove a parent it should just show how unstable the person is since has nothing to do with child welfare.

The reason she is doing it is because knows there are certain things that can trigger my condition and keep her protected such as police and social services the 2 sets of people I should have spoke to many times but I just cant.


There is one thing I know will come up in a report, and if I hear one word of it its going to get crazy. If she states one word or indication I will not only destroy her but will also hamulate her. Something so ridiculous deserves a rubber room, but one word I will demand a immediate formal letter of apology, prove the crazy and then sue her so fast make her head spin. In addition to formally asking for charges based on false allegations. Then leak the entire thing to the press myself.

Im not going to lie, she is getting to me but then she knew she would by doing it. Not really slept and with the addition to not seeing my girl at xmas, MH conditions I honestly can honestly think about killing myself before it gets too far.

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Come on Painkiller, that sort of talk isn't going to help your daughter.

You are a fortunate man: you have a marvellous daughter. Work hard to make sure life is as good as you are able to make it for her. Be that good dad for her in spite of all the difficilties on the way - it will be worth it in the end.

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help? 1 month 3 weeks ago #96398

I am and always have been a excellent father, ex can try dispute that as much as she likes. I am literally going through hell (again) with this and though I am tough as nails, eventually even they break.


Had to get my medical records. I can not describe the absolute hell last time I had child issues like this i mean hell. 9 months of psychological torture, lies and betrayal, the most dodgy professionals i have ever known of. It was worse than I even knew back then, the level of extreme dodgy professionals. Looking at some of my more restricted medical records found them to be even more dodgy than I thought, and seeing as though I have a extreme trauma disorder, its raining ptsd and trauma at the moment. Some of my records are absolute sick, just plain wrong. Since birth by life has been guided by someone (usually abusive women) and includes abusive SS nazi women. If you knew me and saw my records would laugh hysterically at the fiction of it all. I could sell the documents to stephen king and make a mint its that fictional. You have a serial killer, and apparently im somehwere above that.


As tempting as it was and to be fair many have done it before. Where I am orginally from is deemed the worse social services in the country and a lot of them paid the ultimate price for it. Take mine made a app (still gravid with child) they were hours late but told us to wait, pregnant wife was hungry and after a few hours arrived to meet us. I said politely in the future please be aware my wife is pregnant and has been hungry for the last 2 hours but told to stay onsite. Could you please inform us of extreme late delays in the future. And their response was and quote" well we are ok, we had sandwiches on the way down here" the cheek to say that to a hungry gravid woman's face.

It went on like that for ages, informed them nursery is already prepared with brand new top line equipment incl mosses basket and cot. They told me to keep the baby in a drawer …. a drawer, and then explained further why since we have all the needed equipment already and far safer. Stated I was being argumentative, aggressive and non co operative with instructions. We were given a 4 legged high chair, used and one leg was damaged. I said well no I already have a solid structure new built one and as baby safety is paramount why would I use a faulty one? again same as the drawer conversation. From there it just gets more of a joke.

Im a sexual deviant because I wear buckles and chains on my clothes so deeply into s&m domination.... alternative clothing / goth. Threatened to push them down the stairs, when in reality I said be careful not to fall down the stairs as my stairs are wooden and you are wearing inappropriate shoes with no tread. Tried to run them over in my car, I was stopped and stationary at a red light traffic light, not 5 meters away from them behind another car!. Afraid to be alone with me.... on the record but off the record always spoke to me alone in empty places with no one around like a car park in normal conversation. They lied, cheated, stolen from me, falsified official documents, forged signatures, redacted important conversations.


"may become a danger to anyone that threatens the safety of his daughter" well yeah as is my right as father and protector of my child which any father naturally does but just to make me sound more menacing.


Its just one big joke, my life is made for me not by my actions, because of the SS trash I am red flagged most places as dangerous i.e GP's. Honestly if knew me would be laughing at the legend that is me - the tale of the painkiller, a psychological thriller based around a monster worse than any serial killer in history, that loves s&m torturing his victims in the graveyard inside a ring of fire ( yes that was another one too, apparently i only have sex in a cemetary ring of fire). On shelves in 2019!! preorder now and get a free hit and run on a day of your choice. -_-'


People wonder why im crazy.

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