i have a court order in place (just recently) where the kids are with me weds to monday. twice now i have attempted to collect them from school and they refuse to come. first time managed to get them to come eith me and today was unsuccessful, the only came roudn for dinner and then their mum picked them up.
they both say they dont want to be with me from these times, but when they have they have shown no signs they didnt want it. i stongly feel that they are reflecting their mothers views and feelings towards it and one of the children said this this evening. the court application is now closed and I feel that once they get used to the new arrangement they will be fine at the end of the day with now issues arising when i collect them from the first day of contact they have with me.
even if your ex is not manipulating your kids, the kids will be resistant at first. they are just used to seeing their mum picking them up from school. after i got my order, i went to collect my daughter for mid-week contact for first time. she was in tears lol. did not look good walking past the teachers in that state. its only after i started cracking silly jokes with her that she started laughing and calmed down. she was bit better on second occasion i went to get her. now she is fine and is very happy to see me outside school.