Hello all. I’ve gone bonkers and I need some help.
Some time ago, my partner and I separated and we went our separate ways.
When she was preparing to leave, I were staying somewhere else in the meanwhile. We have two young children and she said she’d let us know where they’ll be. She soon stopped responding to my texts, so I didn’t quite know what was going on or when I could see my children. The next thing I knew she changed her phone number and I can’t get hold of her at all. I tried to contact some of her family members, to no avail.
Our relationship was always a bit up and down, there was never any domestic violence, so there’s no reason to keep me away from my children at all. Whilst together we still enjoyed days out and a few holidays together even through our difficult time, trying to make things nice for the kids, but in the long run it just wasn’t going to work out. Conversations for years had always revolved around her planning to leave me (I’d even overheard her talking to a friend in the kitchen about doing so), so it just came as no surprise, just this time when she announced it, I just accepted it, rather than try to keep us all together, as I just couldn’t do it again.
Apart from full blown legal action, I don’t quite know what to do or if there even is any other option. I’ve not seen my children in over a year and I’m not coping with that very well. My kids should have a father in their life. I just really miss my kids so much.
I had a telephone consultation with a solicitor which cost me, now they've gone quiet and won't repond to me. So they basically took my money then did one (I'll be going through their complaints procedure).
I experienced similar to you. don't call solicitors and waste your money. looks like your only option is court action. book a call with a mediator. should cost under £100. they would need to give you permission to apply to court.
court application costs £215. you can represent yourself in court and avoid costly legal fees. plenty of dads on here who have done it themselves, and can advise you. if your ex is claiming benefits then it will be pretty easy for court to locate her. you could also let her family know about court proceedings. can put down their family address on paperwork.
Don't you just love solictors. I only got a resonse from the ones who did the consultation after an email telling them that I'm not happy and they won't be taking my case.
They're a firm based in Oxford and they're utterly useless. The woman I'd been dealing with just couldn't be bothered and the woman who called today in response to an email hand't a flipping clue. Utter shambles.
EarleBoneheadedRowney wrote: Is a mediator an option for me? I don't know where she lives at the moment. I'm paying CSA, so she has had to have had an address somewhere, unless she used her mothers address.
here is some info about mediator:
it mentions that you can be exempt from sitting a mediation assesment (MIAM) if you don't know where other parent lives. But you should have informal chat with a mediator and get their advice first.