Hello all , I am new to this forum and thanks for reading and taking the time.
I am a divorced father of two children ( two girls) and I am currently in a destructive relationship to a woman who has two sons to previous relationship ,we both have a young son between us who is everything too me .
I get access to my girls every Sunday which always seems to be the day when everything goes horrible.
The relationship with her sons (12 and 16) is difficult at the best of times , no respect for anyone or anything , the try to be the men of the house and do absolutely nothing to help , even being physically attacked by one of them whilst me and my partner were having an argument.I have moved house twice for her to be happy , she always said that she wanted to move out from suburbia into a village , that is what we have done for her 6 months later not to like where we are and she wants to move back to where we came from ( frankly a shithole housing scheme in Glasgow) I have reached the end of my feather with all this , I have a boy who I want to have a stable upbringing in a safe environment , a good school and a decent area where we currently live but she and het"boys " want to move back to what she is used to..chaos!
What rights do I have on regards to his well being for I am not married to her? Her two boys show no respect for me or their mother and I certainly don't want my boy to be brourght up in that environment but but I seem not to have a choice. I have currently left my partner due to our relationship becoming untenable , I pay the mortgage and my name is on the deeds and all credit is in my name for she can't get credit , so when the time comes I will be left with all credit repayments , hp and phone contracts , but in the bigger picture that means nothing to me all I am worried about is the welfare of my baby boy but it looks like I will not have a choice.
It looks as though i will have to sell my house , or face repossession , I am so tired and ill with all this., and being attacked by a teenage was the final straw.I am currently at home with my parents which is two hundred miles away , I am worried about my son but there is no contact , no phone calls accepted , can anyone make me feel any better or advise me or just some words of comfort
I'm really sorry to hear about the situation that your in, it sounds horrible, and I guess you feel there isn't much you can do, have you thought about counselling? to try and resolve your issues or do you think its too late?
I'v put 2 links below one for our relationship tool which if you feel there is some hope for your relationship then it may help, the other is one to help to ensure your son is put 1st if you feel there is nothing left to fight for and you have to seperate.