TOPIC: Marriage break up

Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76461

Hi,
New to the site, looks helpful.
Just been kicked out by my wife and currently staying with my mum.
This is my second marriage and I am just going so sad.
I know what I have to do, but just need some advice and find friendly people.
Cheers
goatjazz3

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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76469

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Hi there GJ

Welcome to the forum :)

Sorry to hear about your troubles....breaking up is hard and plenty of us can relate to what you're going through.

You mention that you are after some advice, we're a friendly bunch so all you have to do is ask and we will do our best to advise and support you.

All the best
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DadTalk Moderator... I'm not legally trained and my responses are my own views based on my experiences of the family court. I have plenty of common sense and can offer you emotional support and guide you to answers.

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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76478

Thank you.
Yes its a difficult time but I know I need to keep strong.
Have done the usual begging parts, but now doing no contact and have taken things off facebook etc.
Have collected most of my stuff, and am waiting for my flat to come vacant as its got tenants in at the moment.
I was loving at wife's house and we rented out my flat.
I have a daughter so is 14 from 1st marriage, but she doesn't live with me all the time, so no problems there.
Just need some support really from fellow dads and just some boosts to keep me positive.

Thanks again
Goatjazz

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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76479

Hi There,
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As Mojo says plenty of us have been where you are now, and it's easy to say it gets better but in reality it doesn't feel that way.
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Your main points of focus now will be on yourself and your daughter, spend as much time with her as you can (or she will allow :whistle: ) and try and keep yourself busy, maybe join a gym and start working on keeping fit and healthy, sessions at the gym will help you to feel much better, as you will start to feel better about yourself and how you look, and it will also help you with sleeping.
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Make sure you are eating well, and if your mum is fussing over you with food then let her Lol
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Keep chatting and if you have any direct questions just ask
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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76502

Hi,
Many thanks for the replies.
Back to work today full time, took a bit of time off and then went back last week on reduced hours.
Made it to lunch time so feeling ok.
Trying not to go on facebook but finding it hard to resist a peek at he profile. But so far today not looked.
Just have this massive empty feeling at the moment which I know will go in time but what makes things worst is that we were due to go on holiday in September so I know that few weeks will be really rough. She is now going with her daughter.
Anyway nothing I can do about that.
Any advice or just chat will be most welcome.
Thanks again.
Goatjazz

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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76507

Hi There,
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It's so hard when a break up isn't what you want I think you are right not to be looking at her profile on facebook, It may be an idea to block her posts for now, you don't have to remove her, but you can "un follow" her and then anything she posts won't appear in your news feed, this may just help in the short term.
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We are happy to discuss anything either on the forum or through private messages if it's sensitive, so feel free to post or message me.
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GTTS

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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76508

Breakups are a bad time for both mother and father and also unfortunately the child has to suffer with the void of usually being father being missing.

Avoiding social media will help you to keep your mind focused on the task ahead of trying to establish contact.

I assume that you have been amicable already and are maybe looking into the route of mediation?

They say time is a good healer many people seperate as the two just do not get on so do not feel bad about it. However not knowing your circumstances I am confident that you gave it your best shot in the relationship too.

Keep well and go out meet people as I am willing to converse and share experiencing if required. Do not feel your are alone in this as there are many people around you that are there for you especially fathers that have been through what you are going through.

Take care.

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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76520

Many thanks again for the replies and advice.
Today I managed to do a full days work!, one step at a time lol.
Work have been do very supportive and even my boss told me a few things about his private life which I can relate to.
So I have partly blocked the ex on facebook which stops her posts on my news feed.
Not doing to bad today, and feeling a little more positive.
My daughter is being really good also and is looking forward to moving back into my flat once the tenants are moved out ( November).
Anyway thank you all again for all the help and advice.
Will keep you all updated on any developments.
Think this relationship is pretty much over tho.

Cheers
Goatjazz

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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76524

I hope everything works out for you.

When my marriage broke up and I was kicked out of the house, I turned to the bottle for a while which was a big mistake! I eventually got myself a DVD called Insanity which was awesome. It focused me and I also lost weight at the same time with the exercising.

Get yourself an interest that keeps your mind from wandering. Avoid Facebook and all of that twaddle. Concentrate on you and your daughter and it will all work out.

All the best,

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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76530

Morning,
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It sounds as though you had a better day yesterday, glad your daughter is being supportive, and it's always good when work understand and can relate.
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I've seen the insanity DVD, that is pretty much full on and takes a lot of commitment, I go to the gym 3-4 times a week and I don't think I could do it Lol
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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76537

Morning all,

Had a rubbish nights sleep and bad dreams.
Laid awake from midnight until six.
Then ended up phoning her and texting her.
Had a long reply to my text and basically told me its over.
Feeling really low today and stuck at work which is not helping.
Just feeling so low and feel like its the end.

Need help!

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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76539

Hi There,
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That's such a shame when you had a much better day yesterday, night times are always the worst, if you aren't sleeping maybe you could make an appointment with your GP, explain how you are feeling and what's happened, he may be able to give you something to help you sleep, if you are able to sleep better then the day times should be much easier to cope with.
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You are not on your own through this and we will support you through it.
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GTTS

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