TOPIC: Marriage break up

Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76621

Hi There,
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Your sounding a lot more focused already which is good, as you say you will have up's and downs.
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A lot of our members here are looking for slightly different advice around break ups, most of them have children involved in the break up they have just had and need advice on how to deal with that, where as you don't have a child from this break up and seem to have a pretty good arrangement with your daughter from previous relationship.
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But the simple answer is yes, in the saame way you had found love after your first break up, you found someone else just don't rush to be in another relationship until you are fully over this one.
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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76624

Morning all,
Going to see the doc today, need to get some help and also just to chat.
Just cant shake these feelings.
Feeling very low again today.
Goatjazz

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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76627

Morning,
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I think going to the doctors is a good idea, explain what hs happened and I'm sure they will be able to offer some help.
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If they give you medication for sleep which seems to be what youu are struggling with you don't have to take this every night, maybe just when you feeling at your worst.
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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76636

Hi everyone.

Not been the best day, had to drop off some boxes at the ex house.
This was for her to pack up my stuff.
She was out at work so I have left them in the porch.
Just really hard having to go round there.
Still I did it.
Decided not to go to the docs, just want to do this on my own without pills etc.
Sent her an email to tell her about the boxes and got a reply, which again was very formal and no emotions.
So this is it!.
Gonna have to get my head sorted and accept this is a new start, not an ending.
Just want to get into my flat. Really frustrating.
But hey it will come and then my new life will begin.

Cheers everyone. Keep me going with your chat , its nice to get the messages.
Goatjazz

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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76638

Hi There,
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I think you should go to he doctors, make an appointment and talk about what's been going on, you don't have to take any pills they give you, you could even just hold on to the prescription, at least that way you know you have them in case you start feeling worse.
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Talking over what has happened face to face with someone is actually sometimes the best medicine, so you may even find just the chat with the doctor wil help you.
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How long will it be until you get back in your flat?
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Are you able to spend wome time with your daughter this weekend to keep you busy?
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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76646

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Hi G....you're doing so well...sure you're having bad days but you are coping and able to focus on some positives.... like moving forward, getting things for your flat and even thinking about dating!

You said ..."Gonna have to get my head sorted out and accept this as a new start, not an ending...." Theres a lot of strength in those words, truly. I think you're a lot stronger than you realise.

As far as going to see your GP is concerned, it's not just about getting a presctiption, there are talking therapies and perhaps a bit of counselling could be available.....it really does help to talk and more importantly, to be listened to.

All the best mate

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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76650

Hi,
Many thanks again for the reply and advice from you all.
I am feeling down today but also can see a future.
I have a few days off now, so going to car boot tomorrow and also Sunday.
See my daughter on Sunday, walk sound boot sale and see any bargains for the flat.
Will make an appointment for the docs on Monday.
Like you all say, not just for tablets but to talk.
So just trying to focus on the things I can change and not all the things I can't.
My mum is being very supportive, think she is bored now of me saying"I will get thru this , I will get there on the end" lol

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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76660

Hi,
Been a rough morning, been to car boot, got a few bits for the flat. But feeling really low. Been crying lots, ended up sending a facebook message to ex. Not got a reply. Stupid thing to do.
Just really down, can't see a future, just so sad.
Not sure what way to turn.
Help needed.
Sorry guys

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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76661

Hi There,
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As we have all said you will have bad days, but you have tomorrow to look forward too with your daughter.
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And I'm sure your mum isn't getting bored of hearing you say you will get through it, she is there to support you.
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Go see the doctor on Monday and talk things through with them, they will help you.
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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76665

Hi,
Yes been an up and down day.
Had a cry and let off some steam.... Been watching the Olympics so at least something to watch.
Feeling ok tonight, trying to focus on my future. Not what she is doing.
I know this is going to be very hard, but I will make it.
Got some bedside cabinets from car boot for the flat.
Seeing my Daughter tomorrow so looking forward to that.
So just taking it day by day.
Its good to chat on here, finding it helpful and nice to know I have some support and friends.
Thanks again.
Will update tomorrow.

Cheers
Goatjazz

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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76675

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Sorry to hear you've had a couple of difficult days....I hope spending time with your girl today has put you in a better place.

It's going to take time, but I think once you're back in your flat it will make things a little easier.

Make sure you are taking care of the basics... Eating properly and getting enough sleep are important and will help you to cope. Hang in there G.

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Marriage break up 3 years 3 months ago #76678

Morning all,

Well its been an up and down weekend. Mostly down.
Felt rubbish yesterday after dropping my daughter back.
Ended up driving around to ex house, looks like she has a new car!.
Didn't do anything stupid tho, so I just drove off.
Then done the same this morning, but she was out, she usually takes the train to work. But drives to station, but me seeing the rail strikes , thought she might be home.
Stupid!
I have a load of stuff in her garage, my ebay stuff. I sold lots of things, from vhs, DVD, cd etc, and I have listed the tapes as a job lot, as she wanted them gone. They finish today. She said to email her when they sold.
What should I say in email. I still want to talk to her, but she has blocked any contact except email. If I try any other means she gets angry and says she will seek legal advice etc .
Not sure of my next move. I am trying to move on, but its all happening to quickly, I don't feel we have talked this thru enough. But she seems determined this is her choice etc
Help guys!

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