Daddyup and Bill My ex lives with her mother and I think the mother was happy just to go along with my ex until her son told them off for what they were doing.
I visited this week with the ex's mother present and she just left me to it, which was nice, so Im going to try and build on that relationship so my ex can't say Im not interested to the courts, as Im sure she will try anything..
its all so hard,,, Im try to keep my mouth shut and just do everything I can to look good for the courts and just hope they see me for what I am.
Thank you for all your advise, It really does help to know Im not alone
Remember, you are spending time to build a relationship and not just to look good for the courts.
Make the most of it, enjoy it, your daughter will in time ask for more contact and it will progress. By building this bond and using time to do so if you are ever observed by professionals there will be no awkwardness or concern.
How are things? I want to just encourage you and say from the last post I read from you, that you are doing the right things - i.e keeping as calm as you can, spending what time you are allowed to with your baby daughter, and building on the relationship between you and your babies Grandma. Just a couple of other suggestions - have you thought of making a memory box/book for your daughter that she can have later down the line? You could perhaps tell her a bit about yourself, what you like, how you felt when she was born etc. She will hopefully know and appreciate how much you cared for and loved her. Try also to look after yourself mentally. Keeping calm and getting enough rest are as important, because you have times ahead which could be challenging. Be kind to yourself, as when you do spend time with your daughter, she will hopefully pick up on the way you are, and enjoy her time with you.
Wishing you all the best, Fegans Parent Support Volunteer.