So i'm engaged to an older woman with two 18 year olds, one has moved out (we get along ok) the other is here a couple of days a week, and i'm at a loss.
The age gap between them and I is the same as the one between me and her mother, but there are some emotional imaturity issues, i've tried the advice of her mum, and my own step-dad. We have mutual interests in a lot of things, but after a few years i still get death glares, no response when i talk to her, and a general lack of respect.
All of this has driven a wedge between us to the point that i don't feel welcome in our home when she is here, which as you can imagine is causing problems between me and my partner. I don't expect to be treated like "dad" but i'm out of ideas, and losing the ability to be patient, and as much as i am ashamed to admit it it's making it hard to keep caring.
I could use some advice from an outside perspective, and somewhere to vent.