My ex wife of now 5 years this time last year decided to apologise for her actions and role in our divorce, which was all her doing with her dellusiions. its now in the past i was professional about it and kept it as that. Few weeks later she was insistent that we meet up and talk, and then she suddenly springs up on me that she wants to get back to together. My reaction of course was 'you must be kidding'!
Although i maintained professionalism and insisted we stay civil and freindly for the benefit of our son, and thus we have communicated more openly about him than previous which is a step in the right direction.
However more recently a year on i have noticed with my son that he is now believing that his mother and i are getting back together. He is only 5. i know children have desires that their parents get together, but this seems very odd. He understands me and his mom love him but cant be together because we dont love each other but love him very much.
Recently he has started drawing pics of me and her together in our house. He has been sending me voice messages asking to meet up so we can talk like an intermediary.
I find this so wrong and unfair on him that she is trying to use my son now as her messneger as she may now have accepted her mistakes and is trying deperate attempts to get back together.
The most alarming thing however, last week at our sons appointment she wanted a private word, and proceeded to tell me that she has been possessed for the last 4 years and is now seeing an exorcist!!!! I found it very difficult to contain myself and listening to her stories.
I dont know what more else i can do to prove she is unstable and present a case to the courts to take sole responsibility of our son. I dont believe she is harming him but i do believe she puts herself first and my son is more of a pawn for her to use against me,
This does all seem very odd, I don't really know what to suggest other than sitting down with your son and explaining that you won't be together with his mum but that doesn't change the fact that you will always be there for him and love him very much.
From what you say she has mental health issues that seem quite severe, I would suggest you speak to Children's Services or CAFCASS about the "excorcist" and her claims of possession. Also the fact that she is expecting your childto act as an intermediary/messenger, which is completely inappropriate.
Have you spoken to your sons teacher at school? It might be a good idea to find out if his behaviour has changed, or if he is struggling.
This is a difficult situation for you. All the best
He is excelling quite well at school, the teachers have always had nothing but really positive things to say about him. he is a very bright boy who loves learning and being empowered, I ensure this all the time but of course im unaware with how he is with his mother. i do find he is somewhat restricted with his activities and play. She does not promote riding bike, take him swimming etc which i do.
she will spend time with him reading and writing educational stuff, but he wont be allowed to play on a phone or tablet at hers where at mine he has all this and ps4 games etc. i do spoil him at mine but in moderation.
The intermediary bit is concerning as is the whole exorcist stuff. i have regular contact even though it has gone to every other weekend i do not want to disrupt this. Im not sure if children services or cafcass are approachable and what will happen or next steps would be?
I cant prove this as she told me in person and refrained from putting it in writing.