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My success story 1 year 6 months ago #91661

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Hello all,

So I've just finished the final hearing yesterday and I have to say it has gone as well as could be expected. While I'm no expert and in some ways my ex was a lot less difficult than others on here, I hope a positive story will boost the moral of other guys going through the process.

So little one was born 9 months ago, I was not allowed at the birth, scans etc and not named on the birth certificate, I was told I was lucky to be even told he was born.

When I knew the last day for registering the birth was up I contacted mediator ex refused, court form went in, she then stopped contact, I added c100 form, mum completed c1a every type of abuse all lies or vast extravagantion this continued from her throughout.

No contact for about 7 weeks, at first hearing her barrister agreed to parental responsibility, I said great but I want the birth certificate she refused, judge agreed with me, weekly contact centre 2 hours agreed, section 7 ordered.

Mum refused 2 hours after court said 1 I accepted until he was settled. Section 7 completed very positive. Next hearing judge told mum to allow 2 hours and give doctor plus childminder info.

Final hearing 6 months after first, more attacks by mum judge rejected all moved contact away from centre and overnights from 18 months mum wanted 6 more months at centre and overnight at 3 years.

My feelings about success, I self represented as I feel you can much better get your points across, don't attack mother in fact I always said what a great job she was doing, be realistic I would love shared care but knew it would not be granted, also as my house is not suitable and I have little experience I asked for contact to start at my mums, be positive tell the court things you enjoy about your visits, I'm sure they get anger all day and don't give up it can be done

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My success story 1 year 6 months ago #91662

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Thats really good news J and so encouraging for our members that are still going through the process.

You showed flexibility and were child focused and I'm sure that didnt go unnoticed! Well done and thanks for taking the time to update us!

All the best

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DadTalk Moderator... I'm not legally trained and my responses are my own views based on my experiences of the family court. I have plenty of common sense and can offer you emotional support and guide you to answers.

My success story 1 year 6 months ago #91686

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Excellent result and attitude - certainly must have helped in getting the judge to see your point of view. Well done and enjoy your well deserved contact. :-)

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My success story 1 year 6 months ago #91697

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Thanks guys, I should also say thank you for all the excellent advice I got on here which not only made me feel like I wasn't alone, it also gave me the best strategy for defence

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