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enquiry 1 year 3 weeks ago #97213

I don't know what to do, like many people on here I'm guessing you have ben through very similar ordeals. I got with a woman and had a son, everything seemed fine until she showed her true colours and become an absolute nut job. she told me that he had past pregnancy's but lost them (I was not aware of any of this) she then stated I had simply been used to have a baby and know that's my job done.

I tried to make things work, giving her cash in hand for maintenance and saw my son when ever I could, I was worried about the state of the house as there was open vodka bottles in the house, medication for mental health around and the house was an absolute state, I contacted social services as I thought she was clearly not coping. throughout our relationship her mental health was a massive problem but she was also narcissistic and sly (to which I found out). she had rung the police on my stating I assaulted her when all I did was hold her hands to stop her digging her nails into my skin.

she stopped me seeing my son and refused to give me any update, the last I saw of my son was in 2014 when I took him out shopping with my mother and we bought him some new shoes, my ex tracked me town and went ballistic screaming "he has my son" when I went to cuddle him and stormed off stating I will see you in court with a smirk on her face. after a few weeks I got a phone call from one of her friends who I barely knew stating that my ex was putting in a rape charge against me for the last four years, I was horrified and disgusted, she then sent me over text messages between the two and it was clear from the wording this was part of her game, I printed them out with other messages from my ex to prove that wasn't the case and phoned the local constabulary who appeared shocked that I had the knowledge of what was going on against me.

started court proceedings to see my son which she didn't turn up to three times, this as overlooked and then I got a call and went to be "interviewed" by the police, they read out the charges and what was said, i felt sick, it was like a "true" story book that she used to like reading, i was told afterwards that there is not enough evidence to prosecute which pissed me off as there wasn't any evidence at all as i am not a rapist. so back to court, this time she states i am an alcoholic so i pay for a test out of my own money and it comes back negative as expected,

cafcass then gets involved and states I have to send cards to my son and looked into me seeing my son with someone in the room, as though i am a threat. ok its a start but the ex denies this from happening, cafcass then say that there is nothing they can do and i am back to square one. i had spent a lot of money for absolutely nothing. its been some years now and im paying CSA which includes back dated amount as she said i never payed anything. i feel i have been used and cast aside, i don't even know where my son lives or what he looks like.

what can i do?


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enquiry 1 year 3 weeks ago #97218

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Sorry to read your post, it sounds like you have been through a lot.

How old is your son now and when did court end?

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I have several years experience supporting parents in family proceedings as a McKenzie Friend. I am, however, not a lawyer or barrister and my responses are based on my own opinions or experiences of the family court.
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