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Question About Allowing Ex to Move Away with Child 2 months 3 weeks ago #98079

Hello,

New here and wanted to get some advice on a situation.

My Ex and I have recently split, but we are still living together until our son is done school for the year.

2 years ago we moved about 2 hours away for a career I was pursuing. Unfortunately, things are not working out and she wants to move back to where we lived before and to take our son with her.

She has agreed that I can have any weekends and holidays with my son and we are going to draw up a separation agreement.

Does anybody have any advice? Should I fight her to stay close so I can make sure I see my son? Or is this a reasonable scenario. I am afraid of my son and I drifting apart with the distance...

All the best.

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Question About Allowing Ex to Move Away with Child 2 months 3 weeks ago #98083

My son lives with me, an sees his mother every weekend she has now moved a few hours away, i feel my sons missing out being with his friends and joining clubs etc because of the distance, i got him a phone for them to contact on during the week, an hes in school 5 days anyway, so I feel like I see him less.
So long distance does work if your willing to travel

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Question About Allowing Ex to Move Away with Child 2 months 3 weeks ago #98089

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Hi there

It would be really difficult to prevent her from moving back in a legal capacity. If you were to take it to court, it’s unlikely they would agree with you, unless you could prove the move was a malicious act, to prevent you from having a relationship with your child.

I think your best bet is to keep things as amicable as you can between you, and agree on a plan that works for you both.

You could suggest meeting halfway to facilitate handovers, or one dropping off and the other picking up. Once a child has started school, it’s quite reasonable to agree to a 50/50 share of all holidays and to share Christmas and birthdays alternately. You could also suggest FaceTime during the week to keep in touch.

It’s not ideal but with some effort many separated parents can and do make this kind of arrangement work.

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Question About Allowing Ex to Move Away with Child 2 months 3 weeks ago #98097

Thanks for the comment. I am willing to do what I have to to make it work.

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Question About Allowing Ex to Move Away with Child 2 months 3 weeks ago #98098

Thanks, Mojo.

I want to keep things as amicable as possible.

All the best,

Brent

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Question About Allowing Ex to Move Away with Child 2 months 3 weeks ago #98113

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You’re welcome Brent... keeping it amicable is what’s best for your child too. There’s always FaceTime and Skype too to help keep in touch.

My Dad worked away a lot when I was a child, back in the 60s when we had to rely on letters and the occasional really crackly phone call to keep in touch... it made absolutely no difference to our relationship we were so close regardless of the distance.

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