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lost everday need advice 1 year 5 months ago #99127

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hi everyone some will no my story or nightmere, ive one little girl, who is now 3 i went to court as was not allowed to see her, after over 2 years in court i got a shitty order , cafcass didnt really help things, i had to jump thro hoops alot to see baby, anyway, finaly 0ct last year, court gave me pr,, i had to prove i was dad, dna, and only 7 hours every two weeks, and this hurt me soso much, having had min concacts in contact centers, ect. so then, mother was well not very nice to say the least, wanting to get on with her new life and find new dad,,? so xmas 2018 last year, ive had a life changing prob out of the blue, nothing i had known about, i find out ive got my kidneys are failing, fast, so in december 28th, i stop contacts, with littleone, and tbh . i didnt just no wich way to turn ,, now 5 months later i havent gone one day without her on my mind, and its just awfull, id like to see her again, but the mothers attitude is one of hate towards me, and she has tride to turn little one against me,, so soon saying baby dont like daddy,, wich is not true, so im left not knowing really what options if any i have left,, do i carry on walking away or somthing else,, any advice on what i should do,, anyone please as above lost, thankyou,

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lost everday need advice 1 year 5 months ago #99128

Hi,

did you tell your ex about your health condition? also does your medical situation allow you to have any kind of contact with your child? if i were you, I would try to get contact started with the child right away. these are the most important years when their very young. i have a 3 year old and she has a very strong bond with me. stays literally attached to my legs lol. if you start contact when there age 6 and above, it will be much harder. you would almost be like a stranger to the child.

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lost everday need advice 1 year 5 months ago #99132

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thank you bill, yes ive told the mother of my problem, but shes not interested,, as im gone? breaks my heart,, i must try and see my daughter ,, but how only god knows,,

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lost everday need advice 1 year 5 months ago #99142

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Only you can decide if you’re strong enough to put yourself back into the court arena a1dad2be... how is your health condition currently?

If you want to restart contact, your first step is to attempt mediation, if this fails or as is more likely, she refuses to attend, the forms will be signed off so that you can make a fresh application.

You had such a struggle last time, it would be advisable to have a solicitor to represent you., although I understand if that’s not possible.

Did you attend any Families Need Fathers meetings the last time you were going through court? It might be helpful for you and a good support.

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lost everday need advice 1 year 5 months ago #99143

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... Before you start, it would be a good idea to write to the mother and explain that you’re ready to restart contact, your health is being managed and you would like to resume contact. The original order still stands, and she should accept that you were putting your child’s best interests first by dealing with your health condition first.

Offer a couple of sessions in the contact centre, just to help with re establishing a bond with your child.

Keep copies of the letter and send it recorded delivery, alternatively you could instruct a solicitor to write the letter.

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