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Child contact 4 weeks 2 days ago #100178

I have 2 girls with my ex wife aged 11 and 5. I have a court order agreed by myself and my 2 girls mum, however over the past 12 months my 11 year old has refused to come with me. She even runs away from me at school when I pick up my 5 year old. There has been nothing for her to be scared about for her to do this. The last time I had her she said she was scared of her mum. When I spoke to her mum about this she laughed it off and that's when my daughter started to refuse to come to me for the time agreed. My ex wife says she has encouraged her to come which I find hard to believe as she laughs every time she sees my daughter ignore me. And was straight to CMA wanting more money as soon as possible.
Has anyone else has this problem? I have spoken to my solicitor who basically said a court would slap her on the wrist if I took her back to court. So basically the court order isnt worth the paper its written on.

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Child contact 4 weeks 1 hour ago #100213

hi,

it sounds like your ex is alienating/brainwashing your child. if thats the case, then it is taken seriously by social services. i would recommend you contact your local social services about this, so they can investigate. some mothers/fathers out their lost custody of the child due to this kind of behaviour.

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Child contact 4 weeks 1 hour ago #100215

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Hi there

Have you tried talking to the school about it? I doubt Social Services would get involved, they’re more likely to advise you to seek legal advice.

You could try mediation to try and get your ex to understand that it’s your children’s right to have you in their lives... if that failed, the only other option you have would be to apply to court for enforcement of the order.

What about your parents, do your children see them, or any other family members? If they do, perhaps they could help you with your daughter by supporting you during contact.

Would your ex consider bringing your daughter to meet up with you, to try and get contact restarted... in a play centre or cafe, just to break the ice?

Best of luck

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DadTalk Moderator... I'm not legally trained and my responses are my own views based on my experiences of the family court. I have plenty of common sense and can offer you emotional support and guide you to answers.

Child contact 3 weeks 3 days ago #100295

I've spoken to social services on numerous occasions. My ex is a social worker herself so they say they have looked into it and arent concerned. They tell me to go back to court but then I get told nothing will get done.

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Child contact 3 weeks 3 days ago #100296

Spoke to school but nothing came from that. Mediation needs my ex's concent who just says my daughter doesnt want to do it! (Doubt she asked). My mum went to the house to give a birthday present. My daughter locked herself in the toilet. My ex has her running scared!

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