random question has any dads had issues with current partner not getting along with child from previous?
brief explanation I have a 8 year old got with my partner when she was 1 obviously have a ex from loopy land who stirred shit from the start and it hasnt been easy for me and my partner the 7 years weve been together. untill the age of 4 I had shared care so half week ect but it was never simple she would kick off constant shit report me to ss got investigated all dropped ect but it was o a weekly basis. she got a partner who was a dick aswell and also on the sex offenders I wasnt told till when they broke up. but cut it short me and my partner had a baby when my eldest was 6 and even then my ex kicked off wanted to no everything and anything then she stopped contact so I didnt see her for 2 years had to go court ect I got every other weekend now. but cut it short sorry rant my partner hates the situation all of it and she would be happy for us to have our life alone ect and she doesnt like my child because of all the shit that's happend.
my daughter normally comes on a every other weekend basis grubby dirty sort of the standard mum just doesnt do hygiene or anything youd normally expect and my eldest is more wild then our child shes more timid and just different I have a tolerance obviously shes my kid but my partner doesnt she isnt directly nasty or anything to her and never says anything but she does to me and I no full well shes awkward untill she goes then she relaxes again. question is do I just ignore it tru to spend time with her when she goes until shes older so I can fully bound when mum fucks off and loses controll and keep the peace. my partner is also pregnant and hates them all knowing as last time they got involved she solely said she lets my child come for me noone else and because she loves me. it's a hard one for me I love them all but can see how it's hard for her as not all women are super step parents and tbh when we got together she was really good it's only over the years its taken its toll.