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TOPIC: Submitting Evidence for a non-molestation order

Submitting Evidence for a non-molestation order 4 weeks 1 day ago #101204

Good Evening everyone,

I have a dilemma my ex has taken an ex-parte non-molestation order out on me, I asked for an undertaking in my original statement for the initial hearing but she has refused my request for an undertaking.
She has made up a number of lies in her statement, where she said I have coerced her into having sex a number of times.

I have a number of messages that prove that she's lying about being coerced into having sex, but the messages are very explicit, along with pictures and videos she used to send to me.

My issue is I feel a bit embarrassed about submitting these messages and pictures as evidence. Also the judge and her solicitor are both women, so I don't want it to come across as if I'm trying to shame her. I'm in 2 minds about submitting the evidence, the only reason I want to submit these pictures and images is to provide evidence that backs up my statement.

I have referenced what she sent me in my scott schedule.

Can anyone give me advice on whether I should submit these messages and pictures.

Thank you for any help you guys can provide!

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Submitting Evidence for a non-molestation order 4 weeks 1 day ago #101205

hi,

do you have a solicitor? would be better to seek legal advice on this.
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Submitting Evidence for a non-molestation order 4 weeks 1 day ago #101207

No, I'm LIP. I can't afford to pay for a solicitor, that's why I asked for an undertaking but she refused.

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Submitting Evidence for a non-molestation order 4 weeks 1 day ago #101208

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Submitting Evidence for a non-molestation order 4 weeks 1 day ago #101213

Thank you, I have looked at that site before, that's why I asked for an undertaking. I haven't contested the order but my ex has refused to my request for an undertaking so she has forced the case to go to a final hearing. I have evidence that proofs a majority of her allegations are not true.

I know I'm allow to provide the explicit evidence, I'm just embarrassed about submitting it. I don't want to embarrass her either. My aim is just to put this behind me and move on,

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Submitting Evidence for a non-molestation order 4 weeks 1 day ago #101214

you could submit written evidence, whatsapp, email, sms messages. maybe thats enough. you could mention you have explicit/images etc and can provide on request.
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Submitting Evidence for a non-molestation order 4 weeks 12 hours ago #101225

Personally I would be including the images in your evidence and my reason for this is simple......what do you think she would do if she had messages and images of you begging for s e x from her?
Hey she's not pulling any punches with making lies up about you.......so if it means the difference between proving yourself or letting her get away with making false claims....I know what I would do.

You can always draw a thick black line across the breasts/genitals if needed to censor them
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Dad-i-d

i'm not legally trained....i'm just a Dad going through hell to see his child grow up and become a decent man and human being.....my goal is simple...to be the father to my child like my father is to me...my hero.

Started this battle 2010.....who knows when the fighting will stop!

Parental Alienation is real and is abuse!

Submitting Evidence for a non-molestation order 4 weeks 6 hours ago #101236

tread carefully. you dont want to be accused of doing revenge porn or something.
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Submitting Evidence for a non-molestation order 4 weeks 5 hours ago #101239

I'd only be using the images as evidence for the final hearing. Can that be classed as revenge porn? The images would only be given to her solicitor and the court.

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Submitting Evidence for a non-molestation order 3 weeks 6 days ago #101256

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I don't believe it would be classed as revenge porn as you aren't publishing these images anywhere.
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Submitting Evidence for a non-molestation order 3 weeks 6 days ago #101260

@Bill
I did initially think the same but what he needs to do is to prove he is not the one initiating the contact with his ex and that she is in fact enticing him to contact by for want of a better word "soliciting" herself.

you can bet 1million% that if he did the same to her he'd be arrested for sexual harassment or worse!

I would sensor the images (not face) so you can prove you are the one being harassed by her.
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Dad-i-d

i'm not legally trained....i'm just a Dad going through hell to see his child grow up and become a decent man and human being.....my goal is simple...to be the father to my child like my father is to me...my hero.

Started this battle 2010.....who knows when the fighting will stop!

Parental Alienation is real and is abuse!

Submitting Evidence for a non-molestation order 3 weeks 3 days ago #101332

actd wrote: I don't believe it would be classed as revenge porn as you aren't publishing these images anywhere.


I received a court bundle from my ex's solicitor. They are claiming that I have breached the order: 'The respondent is forbidden to to disseminate by any means photographs of the Applicant'.

The are accusing me of trying to harass the Applicant by using these images within the court proceedings within my exhibits.

The face is blocked out in the image I sent and one was in lingerie. I only added images that were in reference to periods of time when she accused me of corcercing her to have sex. Also text messages that are related to the pictures were included to show that anything we did was mutual.

It's also stated that she is concerned that the court staff, the judge and her legal representatives have seen these pictures.

I plan to send and email to the judge/court explaining that I have not breached the order as I have only responded to the Applicant's allegations and I was in no way trying to harass her.

I'm not happy at all because I've asked for a undertaking which the judge had also suggested she take, but she refused on 3 occasions now which has led to us having to go to a final hearing.

I just don't want to get arrested for breaching the order as I was not trying to harass her and the images and messages are related to allegations she's made against me in reference to forcing her to have sex, which isn't true.

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