Hi all, Just to intro myself and a brief outline of my problem.
My ex is trying to control access to my child. I left her over 2 years ago as I couldn't cope with her behavior any more.
She is really manipulative and accuses me of not wanting to see my child, while refusing to let him come to me except under her strict conditions. He wants to see me and and I make myself available whenever I can. But since my new partner came on the scene 12 months ago, we have had a total breakdown of communication after she threatened my partner at her place of work and she now refuses to let me see my son at all. Counseling is out of the question as there is no reasoning with her, so I've now decided to bite the bullet and go the legal route. Trouble is, I haven't got a clue where to start. Any help/advice would be greatly appreciated.
sounds like a nasty situation. For legal route - First thing to do is contact a family mediator. you can arrange a video call, for under £100. tell them your situation and about your ex refusing to let you see your child. more than likely the mediator will decide that there is no point continuing mediation and they should sign a form which gives you permission to now apply to court for child arrangements.
then you should contact the personal support unit -
they are a charity. book an appointment with them, and they will sit with you and complete for form for free. There is an option to complete the form online. You can speak to PSU people and ask if they can help you do it online if its easier.
you will have to pay £215 to make this application to the court. one important thing to think about during whole process is do you want the child to just live with the mother, or do you want child to live with both/shared care? from my experience the court order states children live with mother. something like this will boost her ego and make her more annoying and hostile in future.
try get court order to state children live with both parents/shared care.