TOPIC: Reported for dv

Reported for dv 3 months 2 weeks ago #101494

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Gents,
My ex partner moved out after I asked her to leave. Whilst moving out she got heated and started an argument. She then decided to ring the police. On police arrival she duly made allegations that I had assaulted her a few days before. I was arrested and placed on pre bail. She had a bruise on her arm not sure where it came from but she said that I had caused it.
She is now refusing me contact with my 2yo son on the grounds that i am violent and she feels that I would not return my son.
I have started proceedings for a court order. She has a 4 year old daughter from previous relationship and has been through all this before and made countless similar allegations against her previous partner as he did to her. She has been repeatedly violent to me but I know proof of that would be difficult to obtain.has anyone been through anything like this before? I’m suffering from anxiety through the allegations as I have never been in trouble before and missing my son terribly. What would be the possibility of getting an interim court order so I can see my child? And realistically when would I be able to see him again?
Any advice would be much appreciated.

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Reported for dv 3 months 2 weeks ago #101495

I was accused of da at my hearing . Cafcass said they didn’t rec contact but since I’ve always had it courts ordered every other weekend in the interim. They’re likely to order a fact finding in light of allegations . Doesn’t mean much her accusing you if no evidence etc . From now on keep contact in text , email etc so it’s all recorded . When you get to hearings you tell the court why you should still have contact and how it’s best for the kid . Evidence comes later hearings
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Reported for dv 3 months 2 weeks ago #101496

hi,

when was the last time you saw your son? if you were regularly seeing him, then the courts will likely let you carry on seeing him as an interim order. just tell it like it is, that ex only stopped contact after you asked her to leave the house. when is your first hearing? will be be going alone or using barrister?

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Reported for dv 3 months 2 weeks ago #101499

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She has refused contact since she moved out two weeks ago on the basis of her false allegations of domestic violence.
We lived together since my son was born so I was with him everyday.
The application is being sent tomorrow so I will be waiting a court date. I will be using a barrister.
I’m hoping that her previous history of making allegations against her former partner goes against her and some common sense prevails.

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Reported for dv 3 months 2 weeks ago #101500

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Hi mate. Check my other posts.. I'm going through the exact same thing as you.. Its been 4 months I haven't seen my 4 children. I've been given a Non-Molestation order against me, like her my wife has made lots and lots of false allegations, against her teacher, ex husband, her affair partner, and in 2012, she done a 22 page statement against me for DV. it got NFAd after four weeks by police. 7 years on after I caught her cheating again, she made false allegations again, pretty much same as before.. I was called in by the police on Friday. Turns out shes seen me over a 2 week period, and videoed and took pictures of me out and about in a town, some miles from my old house.. I was married 14 years and she's turned into a nasty, lying narcissist. And on it goes.... Im beginning to think all women are the same?
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Reported for dv 3 months 23 hours ago #101887

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Update

I have been charged with three accounts of common assault against my ex.

I’m absolutely traumatised and broken by this.
I’m so scared I will never see my child again.

I have to go to magistrates court on the 4th of November regarding the charges and I have family court booked for the 17th of November for a cao.

Has anyone else been charged for domestic abuse and have been allowed to see their child? I have a clean record prior to this.

What’s the likelihood of being allowed some sort of contact at family court?

I’m really at breaking point and struggling to cope.

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Reported for dv 3 months 23 hours ago #101889

Hi mate, sorry to hear this. False allegations is common for women, you need to stay strong

There are a few websites with some advice e.g

www.kidscomefirst.co.uk/false-allegations/
Father4Justice.
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Reported for dv 3 months 22 hours ago #101898

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Hi,

Sorry to hear about your issue's, the first hearing does not really do much try to get an interim order for a contact centre, that will be the best you can hope for, the court will ask for a section 7 (lots of information in here) then you will go back to court.

If you do get convinced the section 7 will probably go against you I'm afraid, if this happens you need to ask to go on a dvpp course, for this you must admit that you did something, if not they will not let you on the course and it will probably make seeing your child more difficult.

Please don't take my messages as negative the cao process is one where you are guilty of until proven innocent, jump through the hoops and you will get to see your child

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Reported for dv 3 months 22 hours ago #101901

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Thank you for the reply.

It’s absolutely heartbreaking the thought of not being able to see my child.

If convicted how long would it be until I could have proper unsupervised access to my son?

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Reported for dv 3 months 21 hours ago #101902

hi,

its very difficult to tell. they may allow something like you seeing your child in contact centre, for 1 or 2 hours. under strict supervision. thats not guaranteed but could be something like this. you should expect to be asked to go on some kind of course, domestic violence etc.
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Reported for dv 3 months 21 hours ago #101904

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What if my ex doesn’t mind me having supervised access through a family member of mine? Is it her decision or the family courts?

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Reported for dv 3 months 21 hours ago #101905

courts will look at interests of child and their safety. social service recommendations play a major part and court like to go with that. if ex agreed to let you see child in normal environment, then could make big difference.
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