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Bipolar ex wife 2 weeks 1 day ago #101501

Good evening all,

Long storey short do any of you dads have ex wife's or gf with mental disorders it's a nightmare the most recent episode is every year I go to Spain and my ex asks for ciggerettes (pack of 10) currently 50 euro and she pays me £30 Good deal right ?

Well this time she asked for ciggerettes while I'm away in Spain and I simply asked yes no problem can you give me £30 like always she responds "I think your taking the piss here I am struggling financially looking after kids full time go on go away" slams the door on my face ha?

I simply explain we are not a couple so why would I stress about €50 on my own holiday if she's not grateful I also have her other kid who is not mine sometimes but I get no respect for it,90% of the time I say yes to her requests but 100% is ridiculous who says yes to everything lol

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Bipolar ex wife 2 weeks 12 hours ago #101504

Yes I’m getting this as well. One minute I’m the hero when having the children extra nights last minute when she wants to go out (we are 50/50 as it is) but as soon as I say no to something it’s like it’s a different person and the abuse starts.

Starting to think this is always the way it will be.

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Bipolar ex wife 2 weeks 2 hours ago #101516

What do you think is it better I just accept who she is and deal with these episode's 2 or 3 times per year and keep my head down because I can only imagine my life will just be worse if I ever snap back or anything.

Earlier in the year she spotted me shopping at Tesco on my child free weekend and said "Oh I'm so lucky your here now I won't need to get the bus back home"
I said I'm afraid I can't because I have frozen goods to get home and she called me self centered and selfish lol

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Bipolar ex wife 2 weeks 1 hour ago #101517

To be honest I think you have to accept it. There is a reason they are your ex.

I’ve learnt to deal with them by ignoring the messages of abuse, reply when your ready and only discuss the children.

Your lucky it’s only 2-3 times a year. Mines been at least once a month. It’s only recently that I’ve learnt to not let it impact me. I’ve lost count with how many times I’ve been threatened with not seeing my children.

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Bipolar ex wife 1 week 6 days ago #101528

danbruno, you could suggest to her to ring CMS and complain that ex does not set aside a cigarette budget for her.

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Bipolar ex wife 1 week 2 days ago #101598

Wow all I felt all alone in this subject I’m glad I’m not alone

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Bipolar ex wife 1 week 1 day ago #101599

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I would say 'what you allow, will continue'. The way I see it, you can either set firm boundaries and have a bumpy ride while that sinks in, or accept it and go with it.

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Bipolar ex wife 6 days 13 hours ago #101677

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Yoda wrote: I would say 'what you allow, will continue'.


Brilliant way of putting it :-)

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