I NEED help with MAJOR anxiety while picking up and dropping off my child I just can't relax and get nervous before I pick my child up or drop him off because my ex is so hot and cold you just never know what to expect.
-Sometimes I knock on the door to pick kid up door opens I say hello in a nice way and she won't respond or she will just say "Fine"
-When I drop the kid off there will be an awkward silence because if I say hello she may react in a angry way.
Why are some single mothers so angry all the time even if your a chilled relaxed guy like I am,seem so vengeful and bitter and never seem to react in a nice way when you are being nice and polite
my ex refuses to see my shadow lol. her family bring the kids out. i got used to not saying anything to them. door just opens and kids are let out. just go to get your kids and dont worry about awkward silences etc.
How old are your kids? If they are old enough, do you actually need to go to the door, or can you drop them off and make sure they are safely inside without getting out of the car, and on collection, text them to say you are outside?
No, you are right, your children can't do that on their own at that age. In which case, I suggest you don't engage with your ex apart from the bare minimum unless she engages in a friendly manner with you first.
its safer for the kids if you go wait at the door. at first ex family would bring kids to my car. then one day their retarded mum just opened front door to block of flats and pushed the kids out. near busy high st. so better to be at the door to avoid stupid situations like this.