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TOPIC: Hot and cold drop offs(No reason)

Hot and cold drop offs(No reason) 1 month 5 hours ago #101766

I NEED help with MAJOR anxiety while picking up and dropping off my child I just can't relax and get nervous before I pick my child up or drop him off because my ex is so hot and cold you just never know what to expect.

-Sometimes I knock on the door to pick kid up door opens I say hello in a nice way and she won't respond or she will just say "Fine"

-When I drop the kid off there will be an awkward silence because if I say hello she may react in a angry way.

Why are some single mothers so angry all the time even if your a chilled relaxed guy like I am,seem so vengeful and bitter and never seem to react in a nice way when you are being nice and polite

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Hot and cold drop offs(No reason) 4 weeks 2 days ago #101796

hi,

my ex refuses to see my shadow lol. her family bring the kids out. i got used to not saying anything to them. door just opens and kids are let out. just go to get your kids and dont worry about awkward silences etc.

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Hot and cold drop offs(No reason) 4 weeks 15 hours ago #101847

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How old are your kids? If they are old enough, do you actually need to go to the door, or can you drop them off and make sure they are safely inside without getting out of the car, and on collection, text them to say you are outside?

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Hot and cold drop offs(No reason) 3 weeks 5 days ago #101931

Hello the kids are 2 and 6 so still need help to the home and I always have loads of bags with toys,tablets,bunny rabbit,blanket etc they can't carry the bags just yet maybe few years.

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Hot and cold drop offs(No reason) 3 weeks 4 days ago #101947

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No, you are right, your children can't do that on their own at that age. In which case, I suggest you don't engage with your ex apart from the bare minimum unless she engages in a friendly manner with you first.

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Hot and cold drop offs(No reason) 3 weeks 4 days ago #101962

its safer for the kids if you go wait at the door. at first ex family would bring kids to my car. then one day their retarded mum just opened front door to block of flats and pushed the kids out. near busy high st. so better to be at the door to avoid stupid situations like this.

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Hot and cold drop offs(No reason) 3 weeks 2 days ago #102039

Mad I just don't understand why these things have to happen in such a cold way if you're a nice guy an your calm and cival then why the awkward tension

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Hot and cold drop offs(No reason) 3 weeks 2 days ago #102046

Don't try and understand someone who is that bitter. Just deal with it the best way you can for the sake of your kids. If they ask any questions just say mummy and daddy aren't friends anymore.

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