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Will I or won't I ever see my children again. 5 months 1 week ago #101868

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Hi all.
I've posted on here a few times. Short history, my wife made allegations against me for the second time. First lot in 2012. Got NFAd by police as it was lies. Went back to her (I'm a fool), worked on our marriage, went on to have 2 more children with her. Caught her cheating again, and again, she wanted me out the home( disability adapted) for me, arguing went on for some weeks we had couples councilling again, and I find out during one session my wife accused a teacher of sexual assault, her first husband of the same and that he was violent? In 2013, she accused her affair partner of rape to the police.. and now accused me of DV again, cause I won't leave my home and children. So police arrest me for common assault. They released me, I'm not allowed home.

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Will I or won't I ever see my children again. 5 months 1 week ago #101869

Too right. She will have all the control, house and kids.

You can apply to court but they will most likely favour her. The allegations she is making will mean you prob will not see the kids for a while and court may order fact finding, you may get lucky if they give you supervised contact in a contact centre. That on its own is like a prison and can cost you a fortune.

This whole system needs revamped, it is like a living hell for men

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Will I or won't I ever see my children again. 5 months 1 week ago #101870

When I first separated, I read a book about divorce and was shocked to learn that in about 90% of cases, children live with their mother after separation. While I was shocked, I think most people would nod and agree with that number.

What no one tells you, is that the reason why in 90% of cases children live with the mother, is because fathers either do not even try or give up.

When they accounted only for fathers who wanted their children to live with them, the figure was about 60/40.

While we can spend all day complaining that the system is bias and everything is against us, and while that is partially true, it achieves nothing but guaranteeing you won't see the children much.

There is a little switch inside your brain. No matter how biased the judge, the police, the social worker, the teacher may or may not be, if you turn that switch on, your chances go from 10% to 40%. It takes an instant to do and it is all in your control.

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Will I or won't I ever see my children again. 5 months 1 week ago #101872

Most applications result in an order of some sort, but none of the orders are monitored and few are enforced. Many fail to provide anything that could be considered to provide adequate levels of contact. Many applications are abandoned because fathers run out of money, suffer ill health or the ability to simply carry on. The cost of going to court can range from £10-£50,000 in a process that can take years. Many fathers cannot afford to go to court and spend thousands of pounds on a court order which has a 50% chance of being broken and will not be enforced by a judge. One study found contact decreases over time and breaks down entirely in over 20% of cases within 5 years

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Will I or won't I ever see my children again. 5 months 1 week ago #101873

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Yes I have a pre trial hearing in November and a 3 day fact finding hearing end of January. Since August police have told me she's videoed and took pictures of me in a town 7 miles from my home. She's clearly out to get me now! I've done a Scott schedule and awaiting hers this week, in all honesty what chance do I have in ever seeing my children again as last week in court cafcass told me they are recommending interim contact for me,but need to speak to my wife first. Cafcass spoke to my wife, low and behold, she's made 2 more allegations against me, so no recommendation for contact. I will go to the next court hearings, but do I have any chance in ever seeing my children again? Any advice will be much appreciated... Thanks.

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Will I or won't I ever see my children again. 5 months 1 week ago #101874

The probability is 10%. Super Proud Dad just mentioned 90% of cases are with the mother and it normally costs the father a fortune. Good luck

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Will I or won't I ever see my children again. 5 months 1 week ago #101875

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It just seems so much stacked against me. And I only have 10% chance in seeing my children ever again. Blimey. I will fight on! Even if I lose, at least I can say I tried....

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Will I or won't I ever see my children again. 5 months 1 week ago #101899

Devo wrote: It just seems so much stacked against me. And I only have 10% chance in seeing my children ever again. Blimey. I will fight on! Even if I lose, at least I can say I tried....


devo don't be disheartened. where did this 10% chance come from. batmans butt? such nonsense. just make a solid effort demolishing your ex's rubbish allegations. its not going to be a smooth ride but you will get there in the end :)
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