I've just received a C1a form from my ex wife. I served a c100 form on her. I did not serve a c1a form myself as I thought if there was a chance of her being reasonable then serving a c1a form would destroy any chance.
In the c1a form I have been accused of controlling her since we were first together, making her quit her job, not providing adequate care for our children, sexual abuse of our children due to them having symptom linked to this and much more.
All is complete rubbish and simply looks like big digs at me over hatred.
Any suggestions on the best way to deal with these accusations. I have a first court hearing in a few days.
They are some serious accusations!! I assume there is no child contact arrangement in place at the moment? By the sounds of it, based on the accusations your ex is making, these will be investigated by CAFCASS. A safeguarding and section seven report would need to be carried out. Do you have a legal representative for this yet?
I've had the same but have had the first hearing. A second hearing (fact finding was called for) - my ex has been asked to put together a Scott Schedule before the hearing detailing the allegations, which also lists evidence she has that backs this up. This then comes to myself to complete - either accept or deny allegation and detail any evidence that contradicts what she says. You also get chance to add to the list with any accusations against her. Be careful and only use what you can back up with hard evidence otherwise comes across as vindictive. Remember golden rule - stay child focused and what is in child's best interests. Evidence can be facebook, youtube, social worker reports. Be careful with social media - best things are what the ex has posted. My ex posted on facebook - I love my family and picture of me with my child. According to her though I'd raped her the night before. Stay strong, they play these games to get legal aid.
I should have had a copy of mine last week but her solicitor is useless at meeting dates set in the court order. Its a game they play to delay proceedings.
I wouldn't get too hung up over getting all the evidence ready now. Highly unlikely it will be asked for in the first hearing. The first hearing is generally trying to see if a judge can get you to agree to contact and failing that determining what information they need to decide what is best for the child.
What is worth considering is supervised contact arrangements - contact centre / family member /friend etc. With the child sexual allegations it's highly unlikely you'll be allowed unsupervised contact at the moment whilst there are unknowns. Ask for supervised contact while the allegations are disproved. Don't think of contact centre as a negative as many do, it can work in your advantage - someone independent witnesses your interactions with your child.
What you should avoid is agreeing to anger management courses, building safer relationship courses - sets you down the route of seeming to admitting you have issues.
Also under no circumstances accept a non-molestation order if she requests one.