I am sorry iv only just registered here.
Please could someone help.
I have a 4/10 daughters who live with my ex wife and her partner.
Since we split up 4 years ago she has stopped my seeing them on two occasions once for about 7 months once 4/5. Months.
She also made false allegations to the police of DV at the time I was attempting via solicitors to see them.
In nov 2018 in court she agreed to 2x weekends a month and hold. Also phone contact. This is continued pretty much ok until recently.the ex has a counsellor to see my 10 year old . The ex states she can’t get to sleep screams the house down etc . When she is with us ( me and my wife) she sleeps without absolutely no issue.
The ex and her partner have rung me late at night on about 3 occasions on two I have picked my daughter up and taken her home to me where she slept no problems again. Last week we went to bed early 930 with phone on silent . In the morning I noticed about 13 missed calls from ex’s partner and a voice msg. The voice msg is as one they didn’t realise they had left- phone was still running - in it the ex’s partner was swearing about my daughter with her in earshot and also that he was going to ‘knock me effin head off’
I contacted the police who logged but did nothing and social services with my concerns . Social services have not despite my ringing 4 times over last two weeks for update, have not got back to me.
Since this time I have had e mail from ex saying that contact stopping ! No replies from my emails at all .
Please help what should I do? I am going to school next week with my concerns . The court order is not actually an order as such- ‘order by consent ‘ it says as she was agreeable in court.
Thank you everyone
Go to court and apply to keep the ex’s new partner away from your kids on the basis of what you’ve reported . Courts will have to make it be investigated . Tell them you have safe guarding concerns and the new boyfriend has threatened you .
If you want to apply for custody on those grounds I would if that’s what you wanted . I’d worry what he was like towards my kids. Keep pushing social services . They took 8 weeks of me badgering them to send me one report
Thank you very much for the reply .
I’m not sure what I need to do to try keep him away - as in what form etc I might need.
I have tried to look on internet etc I don’t have anyone else to help me .
I spent lots on solicitors before I can’t really afford them again but I might have to try .
I will chase social services again on Monday they just never ring back it’s so frustrating. What toon the absolute biscuit was the ex’s partner who I complained about actually e mailed me saying contact would be stopping - you really couldn’t make it up could you?
I’m trying to keep busy and not let it affect my mental health
Thank you again
Yeah they’re not great . You need form c100 . Think the fee is 225 but you may be eligible for discount on that . Don’t waste you money on solicitors . You don’t need them to fill forms in and lots of people on here self represented . Plus family court is a lot more informal than crim and they are very understanding that people are winging they’re way through .
If I were you I’d call the police too . They are obliged to investigate and they will v likely report it for social to investigate too as it involves children . They did with my ex .
It may be worth looking at a McKenzie's Friend instead of a solicitor, they can help you with the preparation at much less cost than a solicitor. They aren't regulated though, so you need to find one through a recommendation if you can.