Hi guys. I thank all of you on here that have helped me. You have been kind and thoughtful in your replies to me. I know you will think me as weak, and I am. I can't cope with not seeing my children again. My wife had me arrested on false allegations again. First in 2012, I went back to her for the sake of my baby girls, then my son was born, and 2 years later my 4th baby girl was born. 11 10 7 and 5 are their ages. I've been with them everyday of their lives. I watched them be born. Now, like many here I am having to fight, the woman who I thought loved me for 14 years, in court. Not only to see my children, but to fight her allegations. I love my children, but I don't see any hope now of ever seeing them again, something changed my wife, in less than 9 hours, she had me arrested, she emptied the bank account, and left me homeless. Scott schedules, witness statements, Barristers, court, to and fro, I can't do it no more. She has turned everyone we knew against me, I've drained my family with it all, the endless worry, the anxiety. I thought, really thought I could push on and get through it all. But I can't. I'm exhausted, physically, mentally and lost in a cycle of despair and emotional pain. Thanks everyone for listening to me... I'm done.. Devo.
I've been reading these forums for over a year now but have never posted before until I saw your message.
My partner is going through the same hell as you. 2 years of not having any contact with his children and horrendous allegations that have been accepted by the court without evidence. We are losing hope too.
My partner was at rock bottom before he met me and was suicidal. Ended up in hospital.
But he got help before he did anything to hurt himself.
If you feel you're at that point, please ring 999 or go to A&E and tell them.
I'm not able to say the court situation will all be ok. But from talking to my partner I know that with help, you can get through this. If you have family friends please reach out to them.
Understandably you are exhausted physically and mentally.
May I suggest you see your G.P. as soon as possible.
When despair and loneliness descend upon us the Samaritans are a wonderful organization to contact and help us.
Their telephone number is 116 123, calls are free of charge. They are available 24 hours a day, 365 days a year and all conversations are strictly confidential. They do not have caller display so they do not know the telephone number a person makes a call from.
In certain towns they have branches where anyone can just walk in and have a talk with one of the people there.
I urge you to remember that you will get better from the exhaustion you are suffering and the unwanted effects of it. Your situation and ability to cope will improve greatly when you have regained your strength. Which you will !
Please let us know you are alright. You are not alone!
Devo, please don't give up now. You have not come this far to give up. You will see your children again, you just have to follow the motions. We all know how frustrating it is. You know how much you love your kids and you know what your ex has said is untrue. Focus on the facts, not the opinions of others.
One day, you will see your children again, you can tell them all about how you had to fight everyone to see them. I know you already are, but think of you kids, they will need their dad, don't leave them like this, nobody deserves that.
Please let us know you are ok.
Devo, don't wipe out any future possibility of a future for your children to know you, and thank you Sally123 for your words to show there is always hope for a future, however bad things are in the present. Call Samaritans, your GP and any other support you can get, they can't fix your situation, but they can help you manage it, and to look forwards to when things can get better.
I am Nell the digital editor of Dad.info and have just read your post. We are concerned for your well being and would ask you to contact the Samaritans on 116 123 and talk this through with them.
I can't imagine how stressful your situation with your family has been but this whole forum is dedicated to listening to you and supporting you so if you are able to keep posting then we are here to listen.
Let us know how you are feeling today.
If you haven't already come across this organisation -
then you might also find them useful. Their telephone line opens at 5pm so you could also call them then on 0800 58 58 58.
All best wishes and looking forward to hearing from you again.
Please don't kill yourself I know things are really tough for you it's heartbreaking that you have been pushed out of you children's life but think of your other family they need you too
Court isn't over yet you need to stick it out and fight for you children
I know it's really tough that you were with your wife for a long time I know you battled hard to save you marriage and you took your wife back after she betrayed you but nobody is worth killing you're self over
You will see you children again but you have been put into a position that you have to fight for them it's very unfair you shouldn't have to fight like this you sound like a very care and loving dad to me
You need to see your GP and tell them how you feel
Don't worry about people who are her side they have only heard her side of things it's easy to think the worst you can prove these people wrong in court I think you can prove that she is alienated you from your children's life but you have to be strong
Can the people from the early years thing you have mentioned give you a character reference or write a statement in your favour because it sounds like they believe you
I believe you! I know there are lots of people on here who believe you and want to help you including me
Please get some help and look after yourself this pain won't last forever it's short term I know you feel isolated you just need faith to get you through because things are definitely not over anything can happen yet
Please write a message on here so we know you are safe